slimtim1985 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Hello, thank you for taking the time to read my post. Broke up with my partner about a month ago, we split up due to the fact i was pressured into making a decision, an ultimatum either choosing her or my career, i ended up choosing my career, however i never wanted the relationship to end either! She recently sent me a text message after 3 weeks of no contact, saying that i never wanted this relationship in the first place if i could walk away. Having a career in the music industry i offered her to come with me as a compromise so she could spend some time with me on one of the nights i was working, this was after we had finished.......But basically she's now saying no, and said that i've made my choice and now i have deal with my own life. She says she cant trust me (i texted a woman 1 year into our relationship, however the texts were as far as it went) I've never stepped a foot out of line since then to prove to her it was a mistake. I quit my day job to care for her as she has epilepsy, looked after her 2 children aswell, She rang me up this evening, and kept going over the negative things in what went wrong in our relationship, i took half the money out of our joint bank account as it was rightfully mine, and she was very unhappy that i done that, shes completely ignored me for 4 weeks,... she says its so difficult to have me back, as shes scared we'll end up splitting up again, she got upset over the phone, then hung up, and texted me after the call saying shes sorry, she can't do this to us anymore. I'm really going out of my mind, as shes coming across like she wants us to be together, but she keeps putting it off by bringing up negative things, and saying i need to concentrate on my music career, and that i'm a kind special guy, who will get a girl one day who will make me happy.
Egone Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 She's hurting. I think you see that in her communications. She doesn't want to have a light relationship with you, that's why she keeps backing off. She knows you can both find a better fit for each other elsewhere, but it hurts right now. She feels rejected. Was there no option of her moving with you? Marriage? If not, I think you should let her go. Don't ask her to visit. I could just cheapen your relationship. If marriage is an option, then jump on things and tell her. Figure out a way to be together and have the job.
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