making social media contact

[amkxoxo]

So for those unfamiliar with my story. In short I dated this guy for about 7 months on and off. We were never officially boyfriend and girlfriend. I wanted that but he was hesitant since he had been dumped by his girlfriend right before we started talking. He loved her and she left him. He was still shaken up but he proceeded to not be able to let me go. He blew hot and cold. Telling me I was great perfect etc...telling me he couldnt believe he met me and he needed up liking me way more then he ever imagined. He told me I had everything he looked for in a girl but he wasn't quite ready for a relationship. He would continue to call and flirt etc.. I never slept with him because he wasn't my boyfriend. He respected this. I was going to college while he was graduated living wjh his parents. He was unhappy with his life. I got in an accident and got hurt. He happened to be visiting friends at my school. He called and he came to see me. He was so nice to me and flirtatious. I treated him like a friend since he made it clear he wasn't ready for a relationship. He broke the friend barrier. We kissed. Cuddled. The works. He took me out to dinner. He helped me since I had a broken leg. After he left I didn't hear from him for weeks he didn't ask how I was and my text messages went unanswered. I called him one night upset over my bad health injury. He was distant. I was hurt. After that I decided I was not going to be hurt by him anymore and I didn't keep trying to make contact.

 

Months later when no contact has been made I get the ever so popular snapchat app. We become friends. He sends me a picture of himself with a caption. We go back and forth. Then nothing for months and months. It was then summer time. I was travelling to his area for work. The nice person I am contacts him. We make a plan to meet. He's all for it. Tells me he hasn't heard from me in a while. My work changes me plan and we are forced to cancel.

 

Now present day its been months since we have made contact. I'm used to it. I miss him but refuse to let him hurt me. A few weeks ago he reactivates his Facebook which has been off for a year. He doesn't do anything with it but its up again. Then last week he likes a tweet I posted on twitter. I posted something about cooking a certain food. I had made that food for him when we dated. He hasn't liked anything on my social media in a long time. Then after that on Halloween he sends me a snapchat of himself. He loves Halloween and he's all dressed up. I was shocked. Like why make the contact. We don't talk. I was too nervous to respond so I didn't. I continue to post to everyone I'm friends with on snapchat which as a friend he will receive but I don't send him personal messages. Then last night he liked another tweet of mine. Shockingly today he sent me another snapchat. I was shocked. It was him doing a trick. He used to love doing them and he would do then forbme and i would like them. I again didn't respond with anything. Its not a phone call or a text. He isn't begging me back. When he told.me he wasn't ready for a relationship.I was hurt and he told me it wasn't because he didn't like me. He told me I was a great girl and someone he could see himself being with. He wants to be a great boyfriend. He told me he hoped to get his life and head together and be ready to commit to a full relationship and he wants to give time and effort and money to it. He felt he wasn't ready for that and couldn't give it. He said I deserved it. He told me if he felt ready he would make it known and come back for me.

 

Not sure what to make of these small boughts of contact. Maybe he wants to see if I will still give him the attention I used to?

Edited November 6, 2014 by amkxoxo

[Simon Phoenix]

He's tugging at the leash to see if you'll bark. I'd block him on snapchat. As someone familiar with your story, the more you allow this, the more you'll start mindf--king yourself into creating a reality that isn't there.