love1336x Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Recently, my better half has started to hang out with one of my ex flings. This fling was his friend, but at the time we had our fling, we wasn't together. However, when I did get back with my current boyfriend, my fling was still barking up my tree. Texting me to hang out, "what my boyfriend doesn't know won't hurt him" lines at me. I responded, and told my fling to go to hell, that I don't want to lose my current boyfriend for meaningless sex. I told my boyfriend what his friend said to me. He was angry, and simply never spoke to again, until recently..... He invited him to a soccer game, and even paid for his ticket. He told me he wanting to move on with this anger, and just be his friend again. I...honestly, feel bothered by this. Maybe my SO told his friend to do this, to see if I would have continue the affair behind his back. It is normal to hang out with a man who still wanting his girlfriend after he knew we was back together? I dunno... it's just all so strange. I know I wasn't an innocent angel, but at the time we was broken up, and completely ended weeks before we even got back together. D, (my fling) chased me after he knew we broke up, and what can I say? Instead of being heart broken and crying. I had lots of fun dates, that ended with lots of sex. My boyfriend at the time, had a already gotten a new girlfriend, so pshhh. I told a couple of friends this, and they said it just means R (current boyfriend) has a big heart and doesn't want to be pissed off anymore. What's your take in the matter? o.O Would you be so forgiving?
Frank2thepoint Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Getting an invitation to a game, with a paid ticket to go along with it, does sound tempting and also a good reason to not be upset with a person completely. What your ex-fling did was very disrespectful and insulting. But your boyfriend and ex-fling are friends, so such discrepancies of character are overlooked for the big picture; for the friendship. For example, a female friend of mine had a big birthday bash last year. One of her female friends that she hangs out with often, got drunk, and began cursing out random people at the birthday bash. The random people were close friends and family of my friend. My friend was very upset over this, and after a few arguments, she decided to stop talking to her. Well that only lasted for a month, and now they are back together, hanging out. A slight discrepancy of character was overlooked for the big picture. To remain friends. Now be mindful, I'm offering advice as to possibly what your boyfriend is thinking, which would explain his reason to remain friends with your ex-fling. You can speculate that maybe your boyfriend will also use the friendship to also learn of if anything secret is going on between you and your ex-fling, which is a justifiable conjecture, but there is no proof of this. Tread carefully, trust your boyfriend, but do keep your ears and eyes open. 1
Kav Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Anyone wants to be friends with someone who said he wanted their g friend behind his back has issues. I'd dump him. 1
Author love1336x Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 Anyone wants to be friends with someone who said he wanted their g friend behind his back has issues. I'd dump him. Why dump him?
Egone Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 I'm with Frank on this one. You're boyfriend probably wants to rekindle his friendship because it was built on other things. He probably misses those aspects of the friendship. Nothing more. Whether it's meant to be a test for you or not, probably not, but yet it is a test. How will you respond? Will you come off as the controlling, demanding GF or the confident, happy GF? My advice would be to not show that you're bothered. You don't need to say you're ecstatic either. Just show you have trust in your BF. Love him like crazy and, ABOVE ALL, stay away from any and all 1 on 1 communications with that ex-fling. If he texts you, don't respond, show it to your boyfriend and ask him what you should say. Avoid being alone with guy. It'll pass over. I'd feel the same way, but I can tell you from my experience that acting cool and loyal will get you big points with your guy. Best of luck. 1
Kav Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 Let's see someone disrespects me by trying to sleep with my girlfriend repeatedly. I am aware of this. I choose to still be friends with him. It bothers my girlfriend but I don't care. Ergo, I am coo-coo. 1
Author love1336x Posted November 8, 2014 Author Posted November 8, 2014 Let's see someone disrespects me by trying to sleep with my girlfriend repeatedly. I am aware of this. I choose to still be friends with him. It bothers my girlfriend but I don't care. Ergo, I am coo-coo. I wish he thought like this.
Kav Posted November 8, 2014 Posted November 8, 2014 It shows a lack of self respect s well as respect for you Really strange If I had a 'friend' who did that I'd tell him point blank dude I don't know you hit the road
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