JackJackxD Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 (edited) I've been dumped by my Ex-GF 1.5 months ago, we dated for 2.5 years and I really loved her. Perhaps I didn't know how to love her, I kept repeating the same mistakes (not cheating), and eventually she got tired and disappointed to the point where she decided to break up with me for good. She made it clear that she does not want to reconcile and has lost feelings for me. However, when I asked her about future chances, she says she won't know what happens in the future. She said she wanted to be friends, and knows that I want to be more, and told me to give her space. I did attempt to chase her after on the 4th day of break up. That attempt was shot down, and I went NC for a week and a bit before university started. Since we had the same course/same university, NC was not possible anymore. However, despite seeing each other, we barely had any sort of conversation besides Hi and Bye. I then did another attempt to ask her for another chance, I asked her for a "talk", however it was shot down before I got the chance since she told our mutual friend that she made it clear she didn't want to reconcile and she would ignore me if I kept asking her about the same stuff. In the end I had to make up a topic to talk about so she doesn't know my real intention. The second attempt really broke my heart, because that even after 3 weeks of break up, she did not have any feelings for me. I accepted the fact that she does not care about me anymore and tried to move on. After that, for around 4 weeks, I hanged around our friends (we have the same friendship group in university) and felt no pain at all. I laughed, had fun, focused on working. Although sometimes I did think about her, it wasn't anything major. I really thought I've moved on and healed, until 1 week ago. For some reason she started being more hostile/mean to me than usual last week. I put up with it with a smile, and pretended nothing happened, but it really did hit me. I started thinking about her again, missing her loads for some reason. Now I'm just depressed and upset over the fact that the chances are slim to none for me to get back together with her, but my feelings for her are still there. Does this happen to anyone else? When you think you've accepted everything, it comes back to slap you twice a hard. Note: Starting from Day 4 of the break up, I've "moved forward". I've become more responsible, hard-working and serious. I've also picked up a lot of habits, some good, some bad. However, I feel like I am moving forward in my life, whilst carrying my feelings for her behind my back. Yes, I'm making changes, I'm improving, but I haven't let go. Edited November 6, 2014 by JackJackxD
xUnknown Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I know exactly how you feel man. We broke up on Oct 4th. This past week, mainly since Sunday I've been a mess. Ups and downs. Not exactly sure why. Weeks 1.5-4 I was doing well. Sure, I missed her, but I knew we needed to break up. But yeah, this week the emotions have been all over the place and I can't stop thinking about her (both good and bad). Its all part of the process. I don't know why... but it just happens. I'm not too sure why your ex was being mean to you. Perhaps the emotions started coming back with her too and the only way she could deal with them and seeing you was by being mean to you. I really couldn't tell you. If the anger towards you keeps being shown and you're still irritated about it, I'd ask her. You didn't do anything in the past weeks to deserve it. Is she looking to get your attention? I don't know...but, if it keeps up, I'd ask.
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