frozengirl Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Who here that is Straight has dated someone that was Bi, Transgender, or Gay? Me I've always been Straight and dated Straight guys, I've never dated Bi or Gay or Transgender before. Not sure how I could feel if I dated a Bi, Gay, or Transgender guy, never done it before, have any of you been in a situation like this? What would you do? 1
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Who here that is Straight has dated someone that was Bi, Transgender, or Gay? Me I've always been Straight and dated Straight guys, I've never dated Bi or Gay or Transgender before. Not sure how I could feel if I dated a Bi, Gay, or Transgender guy, never done it before, have any of you been in a situation like this? What would you do? Sorry but... you do realise that gay men wouldn't be interested in you, right? Is this a serious question? 5
love1336x Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I've been on a few dates when a man has told me, they also liked men....... But, I've yet to have a boyfriend who is bi, but my current SO I believed he might be borderline gay.
gaius Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Sorry but... you do realise that gay men wouldn't be interested in you, right? Is this a serious question? Gay guys date women sometimes for a variety of bizarre reasons. So far I've only dated women who have experimented with other women, none that were full blown bi. Might be able to do bi or a non-self aware/in denial lesbian but not a huy who had his dick turned inside out into a vagina. =/ 1
rester Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I have a female bisexual friend who has been happily married to a man for 12 years. I once went on a few dates with a bisexual woman until she told me she was also dating a woman at the same time and I didn't want to get involved in that drama.
Frank2thepoint Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 One of my ex-girlfriends was bisexual. She concocted this fantastical, but dangerous, adventure of finding some poor girl in the slums of some Latin American country, befriending her, feeding her, and finally having sex with her. I was disturbed and very hesitant of the idea. My only response was, why not go to Vegas, get a legalized prostitute, and have a threesome with her. She didn't like my simplistic answer. We never had that threesome.
Author frozengirl Posted November 6, 2014 Author Posted November 6, 2014 Yeah I don't know if I can date a guy thats Bi it just feels weird, its like he has had girlfriends and boyfriends so you know he's possibly had sex, I don't know if he's clean or not its just confusing.
preraph Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I have dated bi and gay and I won't say dated transgender because I can't even keep all that straight. I mean I had a close friend who did drag shows, but he wasn't not transgender, he was gay. I had one friend/business associate who was a cross-dresser who only liked women but was hung up on a past woman, and we went out a number of times but it wasn't sexual. And he wasn't cross-dressed at the time, but showed me a photo of him dressed like me. It was unbelievable. That's how I found out he was. He later recommended me for a job. Anyway, yes, gay guys will date straight women, but in my case there was no sex but it went on forever. I knew almost right away -- before he was ready to accept his gayness. I kept telling him he was gay. He was young. He had nightmares about sexuality and stuff. It was very hard for him to accept he was gay. He got jealous. I wasn't seeing men much during that time, which is why it went on as long as it did. But I knew he was gay, so I saw a man when I wanted to and it did hurt him and make him jealous. He had a friendship with a man I knew was after him and was gay and so I didn't feel at all bad about me seeing other guys because he saw the guy who was after him all the time and when I finally broke off with him, went to live with him. That guy had been after him for years. I should have let him have him much sooner. Not that I tried to stop him, but it was annoying at times, because he'd interfere with our plans. I dated I'm sure more than one bi guy. I have no problem with it. But they weren't serious long-term relationships, not exclusive. I foresee problems dating a bi guy if you want to be exclusive, but it depends on the guy. A gay friend of mine married a woman and didn't tell her he was gay (as far as I knew, he was gay gay, not bi). Anyway, I guess he must have been bi. She found out years later when he got to missing men and got sloppy on the computer. She was very very upset. She thought he was straight. He wasn't honest with her, but he did truly love her. He never had a bad word to say about her. She was pretty overweight and with his cooking, got more overweight and was a successful woman who'd had the same good job for decades and was so happy when he came along and swept her off her feet. And they had a good lifestyle and were happy, but they both had health problems and he had serious ones and I think him being on the narcotic painkillers is what led to him reaching out to men on the internet. I mean a bi person is going to want both at times. So it's like now instead of worrying about a man looking at women all the time, it's both -- and the men are more likely to hook up.
acrosstheuniverse Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Yeah I don't know if I can date a guy thats Bi it just feels weird, its like he has had girlfriends and boyfriends so you know he's possibly had sex, I don't know if he's clean or not its just confusing. 'Clean'? What do you mean 'possibly had sex'? Why wouldn't you ask/know if your partner was a virgin or not? There are these places called STI clinics where you can go for a full screen and be tested for chlamydia, HIV, etc. Then you know someone is 'clean'. It's good practice to always do this with every new relationship to make sure neither of you is carrying something silent you will pass onto one another. Until you're actually in a situation where you're dating people I wouldn't put too much thought into overthinking this.
Author frozengirl Posted November 7, 2014 Author Posted November 7, 2014 'Clean'? What do you mean 'possibly had sex'? Why wouldn't you ask/know if your partner was a virgin or not? There are these places called STI clinics where you can go for a full screen and be tested for chlamydia, HIV, etc. Then you know someone is 'clean'. It's good practice to always do this with every new relationship to make sure neither of you is carrying something silent you will pass onto one another. Until you're actually in a situation where you're dating people I wouldn't put too much thought into overthinking this. Well this guy and I have not talked about our sex yet but I would go get texted and have them do the same of course to be sure they were clean 100%. As far as dating this bi guy my parents don't like the idea. This bi guy also likes dressing up as a girl not in public or all the time but he does it for laughs and he pulls it off pretty well. So again I just don't know about dating this type of person, it feels weird to me.
DrReplyInRhymes Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 I would date a bi-girl, but probably never something serious. A Transgender? NO. I'm sorry, not even if I was delirious. I did run into a beautiful man once, it was quite a surprise, But I certainly ran from that encounter, at least he didn't lie.
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