magicalmazza Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 well here goes i havent contacted my ex since Thursday and i am finding it very hard to keep going.. i have this feeling in my head that she isnt missing me one bit and its what she has wanted but she admitted to me that if i would have asked her 2 weeks ago to go back out with she would have said yes! But since then she has kissed 2 people that i know of and god knows how many this weekend just gone. I kissed someone on Saturday but all i could think of was my ex :S. i have a few other posts if u wanna check them out but she has been so hot and cold i just dunno if i should break the no contact her voice would stop all this but i know if we dont get back together in the long run i was be worse off! will she be missing me can u be in love with some1 one week then not contact them the next??? i am sooo confused! I said to her on the phone on Thursday.. its unreasonable for u to ask me to switch to just being your friend over night i just said so if we do have any chance of being friends i need some time to get over ya. Do you think that this will not make her call?? or if she is missing me will she do it anyway?? Will this get easier? Thanks for any input
NTB Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 it will get harder before it gets easier but it does get easier stay strong i know what you mean about your gf being hot one day and cold the next mine is doing the same thing and the times that i have broken nc i come out more confused from the situation than i was before so just stay strong and do stuff workout, hang out with friends if you work put your head into work to keep your mind occuppied. anything not to think about her.... stay strong and good luck
prayformydownfall Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 it wasnt easy 4 me at first but u have to stay strong to get thro. if you have read any of posts recently then ull c after 2 months im well on my way to finding someone knew and have no issues with the ex anymore.... stay strong on the outside, even if ur crumbling within, cus legends are made of vunerable men!!!
sleeplessincnd Posted March 15, 2005 Posted March 15, 2005 I agree that it gets harder before it gets easier but you just need to push through. IF you do feel that you MUST make contact do it in a way that does not include bringing up the past. Have neutral conversation and DO NOT bring up emotions or push to talk about the relationship. Sometimes people want to talk and have contact but just can't handle the stress of rehasing the feelings and what did or did not happen in the relationship. Hang in there, it gets better. Good luck!
Author magicalmazza Posted March 15, 2005 Author Posted March 15, 2005 Thanks guys.. I have had a very long chat with my parents today and they have really helped and know what i am going through thank God for LS and family or i would be dead and buried thanks for ur help !!
Author magicalmazza Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 Ouch! Ouch! Ouch! Just found out that she is kinda seeing someone i went on the free sms messaging service (the account we both used to use and there are 10 messages to this unknown number "lol we dont have tuto rials lol!yeah i usua ly av2work wi taitey for a bit on a fri.lo l bet u r after weds n las nite.so we off2 cinema on sun then? u mena sports n social club? xxxx" " which cricket club u go to?no dont be daft i told u i wanted to go wi u at grahams.n u turned me down lol.X " That was the party when i last saw her and she was saying she wants to run away with my and have children etc. then finally.. "it wud be gud!stout g iven u his money n ur payin it for him?we can always go away 4a few days if things go wel?xx " That really hurts and i have just sent her an email not begging jus saying that its a good idea because i am getting over her but all week i have been waiting for a reply thinking she had no credit then this omg i knew i shouldn't have looked!
Author magicalmazza Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 She has blocked one of our account with a new pass but why would she keep this one?
prayformydownfall Posted March 16, 2005 Posted March 16, 2005 right mate no offence but u r really going about this the wrong way.... to answer ur question bout the text account, she probably wanted u to see it so u would initiate contact with her again as u have been practising NC. read this thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ and get ur head round the way to go bout NC its immensly hard but u have to learn to slap urself back into reality. this girl is playing with u, ur the one with the messed head, u dont c her on her asking questions bout ur contact? i hate to say it but i think u really need to accept that this is over and not cling to the hope that it may come back together, wen u accept this i cant tell u she will come back and i cant tell u she wont but at least then u will have proved urself to be strong and have walked on to a place where u can be happy about the things u have, and not reflect ont he things u dont. please please please stay strong, wen u say u r practising NC it really wont have any effect in moving ur life on unless u stick to it PFMD
acidrein_08 Posted March 17, 2005 Posted March 17, 2005 The title of your post is offensive and you shouldn't ever say something like that, I have reported to the Moderators but knowing them they will not change it, just delete the ones I write which give my honest opinion on things without having to cuss. Good Job Loveshack.
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