georgeIII3 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 I work with a woman who I have become a close friend with in a short time. Lots of flirting back and forth i thought was innocent, she has a bf. We used to talk all the time(her initiating) in person and on the phone. Right as we were changing jobs where we never see one another I think she told me she loved me, im rather certain she did, but I'm not sure she meant to. I was so unsure and overwhelmed that I froze up, Ive known I love her for some time. Since that time she will barely talk to me, and never initiates a conversation by phone. In person she is almost the same, but she seems shy and reserved. But I have been acting strange as well. I am going to tell her how I feel soon, I just don't know if I should confront what I thought I heard her say. I feel a great deal of guilt over my reaction if she said she loved me, and want to apologize. If she did, I know I must of hurt her feelings. But I don't want to have to admit I may have only heard what I wanted to and possibly scare her away. I know our friendship wont end by me being honest about my feelings, but I fear imagining that she told me she loves me will. Should I just tell her how I feel and leave it at that, or tell her how I feel than apologize for either being crazy in love or a total ass who must have cause her pain.
TigerLilly78 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 She has a Bf I think you should leave it be and stop all contact with her...
OwMyEyeball Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 More likely that you're highly infatuated and hearing what you want to hear. She could have very well been saying that she had spilled olive juice on her shirt and her "awkward" behaviour since has actually been a response to your awkward response to her comment on an olive juice stain. "Why'd he freeze up? Oh my God ... maybe he's allergic to olives? Why isn't he talking?"
Assasda Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 hahaha. First of all, she doesnt love you. It is in fact inflatuation. Second of all, if you tell her that you love her, the jig will be up, Not only will the relationship will be weirder, but I think the friendship will be over. Get with other women
Tik Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Don't worry buddy, I've been there; highlighted is some food for thought and what to keep in mind the next time you hit this situation... I work Never poop where you eat as they say with a woman who I have become a close friend with in a short timeLength of time - short; no type of time for commitments or getting to know each other. Lots of flirting back and forth i thought was innocent, she has a bf BOOM! This is the sealer i.e. move on or take everything she does with a grain of salt. We used to talk all the time(her initiating) in person and on the phone. Right as we were changing jobs where we never see one another I think You think, not you know i.e. your mind is warping reality to what you want to happen she told me she loved me I've had girls say that to me that I've only met 15 min ago on a night out, im rather certain she did, but I'm not sure she meant to. I was so unsure and overwhelmed that I froze up, Ive known I love her for some time 'I have become a close friend with in a short time'. Since that time she will barely talk to me, and never initiates a conversation by phone She senses your feelings and is doing her best to let you down softly - thats what girls do. In person she is almost the same, but she seems shy and reserved. But I have been acting strange as well. I am going to tell her how I feel soon No. Just don't, I just don't know if I should confront what I thought I heard her say Never do such a thing even with woman you are dating. I feel a great deal of guilt over my reaction if she said she loved me, and want to apologize Why are you apologizing? If you broke a glass on the floor, what will apologizing do?. If she did, I know I must of hurt her feelings. But I don't want to have to admit I may have only heard what I wanted to and possibly scare her away The first logical thoughts of yours in this post for once. I know our friendship wont end by me being honest about my feelings oh it will, she will run away from you faster than a speeding bullet, but I fear imagining that she told me she loves me will. Should I just tell her how I feel and leave it at that, or tell her how I feel than apologize for either being crazy in love or a total ass who must have cause her pain. You do none of that. Get over your strange self feelings of the last whenever and act and treat her like normal. Most importantly, go meet other woman as it will help you stop feeling infatuated by the first woman that comes by and gives you a bit of attention
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