Jixon Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Hello everyone I also posted this in the no contact Co solidarity area. My girlfriend ended things on Sunday because she didn't feel the same way about me more of a friend than a boyfriend. I asked her when she was free for me to come see her next and kinda just came out with it all. I noticed things had been different for a while she would not say she loved me she would just smile or send me smilies in reply she would always rush off the phone seemed like she had less time for me etc. Her mother has cancer and is in a bad way I think this amongst other things has made her slightly withdrawn. I could understand with someone you are so close to being really ill you may not be able to have any love left for anyone else. Mega upsetting for both of us. I haven't contacted her atall since and don't really want to(I told her we needed to do this when she broke up with me but that I wanted to be there for her mum and that I could talk to her about that but nothing else until we are over each other. She said she wanted the exact opposite!) This is her first serious relationship and I know I meant a lot to her. Tonight she messaged me : " I know this is not fair and selfish for me to do... But I can't stop thinking about you. I just want to know how you are.. I miss talking to you so much. I just feel terrible without you." I don't want to be so cold as to not message her back as I do want to be her friend at some point down the line and I know she has massive confidence issues and she unfortunately isn't really that close with her friends too I kinda wana make her feel better you know but I don't want for her to think she can message me like this, what shall I say? Just please respect my wishes I know this is hard etc.?? Please guys any help and advice would be great, Sorry for the essay.
BC1980 Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Hello everyone I also posted this in the no contact Co solidarity area. My girlfriend ended things on Sunday because she didn't feel the same way about me more of a friend than a boyfriend. I asked her when she was free for me to come see her next and kinda just came out with it all. I noticed things had been different for a while she would not say she loved me she would just smile or send me smilies in reply she would always rush off the phone seemed like she had less time for me etc. Her mother has cancer and is in a bad way I think this amongst other things has made her slightly withdrawn. I could understand with someone you are so close to being really ill you may not be able to have any love left for anyone else. Mega upsetting for both of us. I haven't contacted her atall since and don't really want to(I told her we needed to do this when she broke up with me but that I wanted to be there for her mum and that I could talk to her about that but nothing else until we are over each other. She said she wanted the exact opposite!) This is her first serious relationship and I know I meant a lot to her. Tonight she messaged me : " I know this is not fair and selfish for me to do... But I can't stop thinking about you. I just want to know how you are.. I miss talking to you so much. I just feel terrible without you." I don't want to be so cold as to not message her back as I do want to be her friend at some point down the line and I know she has massive confidence issues and she unfortunately isn't really that close with her friends too I kinda wana make her feel better you know but I don't want for her to think she can message me like this, what shall I say? Just please respect my wishes I know this is hard etc.?? Please guys any help and advice would be great, Sorry for the essay. Don't respond. This type of text is typical, and she is just relieving her guilt. She misses you as a friend, not a boyfriend.
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