RoseHeart Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 I went through a break up a few months ago. I never got over it and recently fell into the trap of trying to get back with him. He was throwing me mixed signals all the time. Till I sat down with him and he told me the truth which is that we won't be together again. In fact, he promised we'd stay frends and now he refuses to stay friends. He basically deleted me from his life. It's been hurting for months. This whole closure thing happened 3 weeks ago. I saw him again the other day on campus and he smiled at me again, whispered something to his friend and then both stared at me and for the first time I felt strong enough to smile back but not talk to him. That's right, I just kept smiling but just as he probably expected me to flatter his ego again by crawling back, I walked away. I've never felt so good. Then something amazing happened. I decided to try our uni's "hook up" service (not hook up like one stand hook up, hook up as in meet up with someone and see where it goes) and came into contact with a guy. We met up and my oh my the sparks were everywhere. I thought I'd NEVER be able to feel as attracted to anyone as my ex. I also thought it was impossible to feel butterflies, chemistry and all those lovely things. But yet I did. Me and this guy clicked so well. He got so excited that he even asked me how I'd feel about getting serious in a few months and if I'd be OK with that. We are compatible in every way, he treats me with way more respect and he actually seems to care about me already. I feel far more safer than I ever did with my ex cause my ex was so up and down all the time. So my message is this... you sometimes have to go through a **** experience to get to the right person. Obviously it's too soon to say what will happen but life is so mysterious and works in strange ways. I now met a guy who exceeded all my expectations. If I was still with my ******* ex I'd never be where I am and have gotten the chance to meet this amazing guy who is everything I want. We even share the same birthday which I think is pretty amazing. Oh and may I add, I never expected to find love. I actually didn't even think of love. I was just having fun and focusing on myself. Love finds you when you least expect it. That's the truth. 3
lyndaaxo Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Good positive message to this experience, and I think it'll help a lot of people keep going through the bad times!
dragonfire13 Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 So good to see a positive message - I think one big fear post breakup is that you'll never meet anyone that you click with again. Hopefully by sharing our experiences it reassures people that this isn't the case. I recently went through a similar thing... met a guy a few months after a a painful breakup...while nothing came of it (bad timing for both of us) it was nice to meet an attractive guy who I sparked with and who was good company. It made me realise that there are better guys out there for me who are more on my level.
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