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I'm tired of pretending like I'm just playing guys and that I never get hurt.


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To start off, I'm 18, almost 19. I was never the type to get into serious relationships. I date and flirt with guys just for fun. Nothing more. But sometimes I get hurt when a guy I'm flirting with or casually dating is attracted to or gets into a relationship with another girl. It's really unreasonable.

 

When I recently found out that my close friend and this guy I dated 7-8 months ago like each other now and are close to getting into a relationship, I felt sad and betrayed. Obviously, I have no right to be, because my friend knows that we weren't serious anyway, and we were only attracted to each other in the most shallow way. But it still stings. I don't think I could stand faking feeling happy for my friend and the guy, who I'm also friends with.

 

I act really cool but I'm just a pathetic, sensitive, lonely girl deep down. I hate to admit it to myself, but it's true. I could never be the kind of person I parade myself as. I'm too much of a girl - too prone to attachment and getting hurt in the process. I'm tired of being this way, but I think it's the only way to keep my head held high.

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Well I suggest you stop pretending you don't want a serious relationship and give one a try.

Sure, you might get hurt but I'm sure it can't be worse that how you are feeling now.

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Are you having sex with these guys?

 

I ask cuz women usually bond when sex happens...and, at your age, more than likely the RL isn't going anywhere (cuz you all are young, immature, have options, and are still learning what you want out of RLs and life). So, when you have sex, and it ends, you feel bad cuz you bonded.

 

I say, enjoy your youth...date, have fun, take this time to really get to know guys - don't rush sex or anything serious. Gosh, you're barely 19, you got so much time ahead of you to meet/date guys.

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Well I suggest you stop pretending you don't want a serious relationship and give one a try.

Sure, you might get hurt but I'm sure it can't be worse that how you are feeling now.

 

It's gonna be worse. My friends and other people would just pity me if something bad happened, and I couldn't stand that.

 

Are you having sex with these guys?

 

I ask cuz women usually bond when sex happens...and, at your age, more than likely the RL isn't going anywhere (cuz you all are young, immature, have options, and are still learning what you want out of RLs and life). So, when you have sex, and it ends, you feel bad cuz you bonded.

 

I say, enjoy your youth...date, have fun, take this time to really get to know guys - don't rush sex or anything serious. Gosh, you're barely 19, you got so much time ahead of you to meet/date guys.

 

Hmm, I don't have sex with these guys.

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