My husband is hiding alcohol now. Should I tell him I know?

[adrian77]

I was looking for a cleaner and checked under the sink in the hall bathroom and found and empty bottle of Southern Comfort. Last night when he came home from work he locked the door to the bathroom. He never does that when he is in there. So I asked him why he did and he said it was an accident. He is a compulsive liar but I figured whatever. Now I know why. I just wonder why I didn't smell it on him. I usually do. Now that I think about it though he has used mouthwash when he came home the last couple days. So I guess he is taking a swig and then masking it. I'm so angry. He has a bottle of whisky in the fridge that usually last him 2 days but it's been in there over a week and he made it seem like he was slowing down his drinking. Well obviously it's a decoy.

Edited November 5, 2014 by adrian77

[d0nnivain]

I'd tell him I'd also start going to Al-Anon meetings for people in love with alcoholics.

[beach]

If he keeps it up what do YOU plan to change?

 

Do you plan to stay or leave him?

[Arieswoman]

adrian77,

I agree with beach.

 

You can't control his behaviour but you can sure as hell control yours. So what do you want to do about the situation?

[beach]

Yes, tell him you know.

 

Alcoholics lie - know that part. He will lie straight to your face. So don't believe a word he says. The hiding it part leads me to think he's a heavy drinker.

 

When you tell him you know have a plan for consequences... Like maybe:

 

He either get to detox and rehab immediately or he moves out immediately.

 

Have a plan! If he gets angry call the police. Expect the worst and hope for the best.

[jphcbpa]

Alanon You can have serenity regardless if the alcoholic is sober or not

 

3 C's You can change it, Cant control it, Did not cause it

[beach]

Alanon You can have serenity regardless if the alcoholic is sober or not

 

3 C's You can change it, Cant control it, Did not cause it

 

*CAN'T change it*

[todreaminblue]

Be open and honest with him,tell him you will be his support person.....he doesnt have to do it alone but he does have to start to do something about it..because his drinking affects you as well as him..deb

[Tinroof53]

Did you talk to him yet?

[Gabbit]

Might have him try AA or rational recovery. The later one worked for me better. Drank once in a year and I got in trouble with the wife. Soooooo not worth it.