JuneJulySeptember Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Do you really want to know what is wrong with you? Do this. The next time you go to a party, bar, get together and one of your good male/female friends is there, and there is a single woman there, do this. Have a conversation with her AND your friend. Get it going, have a beer or two, and get it flowing. Get in some good stories, and get some laughs going. When you are done, ask her out or ask for her number. After she rejects you, ask your friend what you did to offput her. His answer is most likely going to be (and has been for most times I've asked) ... nothing. This works for women too asking out/getting rejected by men if you wish. What you do not want to do is assume that you are getting rejected because you are a lacking person and put all the blame on your shoulders and ask a bunch of random people online what is wrong with you. We all know people who are such serious jerks that people tell them to their face all the time who do great in attracting other people. There is no one to one correlation.
ltjg45 Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 I would try this since a nearby bar did get remodeled recently..... ....but since I don't have any friends that I can trust, I would be going solo for this "mission". As for how bad I am with women, I really have no clue. If a woman was interested in me, I definitely can't see the signs and, even if I do, I do wonder if she was being friendly or is actually interested. So it never did go any further than that.
OwMyEyeball Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 I'm somewhere between atrocious and amazing. My greatest advantage is hypersensitivity. That allows me to very easily pick up on subtleties in my environment that many would otherwise miss. When it comes to conversations with women (or anyone, really) that can be a huge bonus - at least for some women. Combine that with deep empathy and comfort in my masculinity and it's a slam dunk ... except when it's not I'm not everybody's type and can pretty quickly determine if there's even a hint of physical attraction. My greatest disadvantage is hypersensitivity. Since I am still learning how to properly manage the rush of emotions that comes with being really in tune with everything going on around me I've become a poster child for DMS-5 (psychological disorder Bible). Depression, anxiety, ADHD, dysthymia and so on. I'm much, much better now than I was in my teens and 20's, but holy crap did I ever avoid women. The second I sensed their attraction for me it was like 50 shots of espresso injected directly into my heart. Self-awareness just made it worse, especially when she intensified the signaling. Actually, self-awareness makes everything worse. Combine that with a very loud, active environment (bar, club, pub, concert, etc.) and I'm ready to have a heart attack. I'm no PUA. If I'm going to get anywhere with a woman the intention for the conversation has to be one of genuine interest for her, as a person. Sounds so sappy, but that's just how I'm wired. That being said, if she's an uninteresting or mean-spirited person I don't care how good looking she is, I'll disengage and find someone else to converse with. I find I have the most success when I'm not out hunting but just intent on having a good time. If there's a woman there who really turns my crank then I'll start trying to turn hers. I don't think there's anything "wrong" with me. I find holding the belief that I should be able to "get with any woman" is wrong for me.
lino Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 I've historically always done ok until a certain point. I'd attract women (though usually the wrong ones), hook up, go out with em, have short relationships where I was basically just the stepping stone onto the better deal. Was never able to form a genuine and real long term thing until the current girl I'm with now and it took me 27 years to do it.
Camaro Guy Posted November 7, 2014 Posted November 7, 2014 Well, every single woman I've ran into didn't want anything to do with me and I've met alot of women.
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