Orije Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Hello Everyone! Its been awhile since I've last used this site. So I met a girl on tinder, we are both 20, sophmores in college and everything seems to be going out great. There was a connection as soon as we started talking about a month ago. I brought up the exclusive talk since I deactivated my tinder and she said to hold off until she is ready because she has a really busy schedule. She lives 40 minutes away which isn't a problem and I get to see her once a week if I'm lucky and I have spent the night over, but no sex which doesn't bother me. I'm sweet to her all the time showing her how much of a great guy i can be. There are a few things that bother me. Not sure if they are personal problems, but let me know what you think! I always initiate conversation and try my best to keep it going after she gets done with her classes, but they usually end up dying. Since we rarely see each other i try to flirt other text and the phone, but she avoids most of it or changes topics. One thing that did bother me was that I noticed she called me a nickname that she called her friend and for some reason it bothered me alot. At first I played it off, but tonight she called me it again and I told her don't call me by pet names that you give to your friends. She denied it, but i told her i know she calls her other friend that, but then i thought i was being too harsh so I texted her sorry and i havent heard back because she is probably asleep. Was I wrong to do that?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 I think she's not overly interested, OP. It sounds like it started off okay, but maybe she wants to keep things friendly for now. Do you have plans to see each other again soon?
Author Orije Posted November 5, 2014 Author Posted November 5, 2014 She has told me many times that she likes me and says how she misses kissing me, but thats rare. when we see each other there is a lot of cuddling and kissing. Since she is busy this week with work and band, I will be seeing her next weekend hopefully. She says she will try to make time during the weekend for me to come down and be with her. Was i wrong about bringing up the part of being called by a friend's pet name? Not sure if i was immature or what.
Author Orije Posted November 5, 2014 Author Posted November 5, 2014 Nobody else has an opinion on the matter?
mrs rubble Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Was the pet name something she calls lots of different people? Eg: "hun" " babe " ? My ex FIL calls all females "love".
Author Orije Posted November 5, 2014 Author Posted November 5, 2014 She has told me she uses "boo" and "bae" on all of her friends and I was cool with that, but my name is James. So she called me Jamesey Wamsey which i knew she called another guy named James and it kinda got to me.
mrs rubble Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 She has told me she uses "boo" and "bae" on all of her friends and I was cool with that, but my name is James. So she called me Jamesey Wamsey which i knew she called another guy named James and it kinda got to me. I wouldn't be too stressed about that! She sounds immature.. "Jamesy wamesy" pfft next time correct her call yourself "Bond" & you'd like your Martini shaken. 1
SycamoreCircle Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 This might just be a red flag, OP. It's something she does which seems manipulative i.e. it feels impersonal yet it's proffered as something endearing. You brought it up to her and she DENIED it. You're already apologizing(tip-toeing) around her. I agree with another poster about her sounding immature. There was a woman at my place of work who I had a crush on. She would address any one in the restaurant's kitchen who had a white coat on as Chef. You've heard the expression, "Too many cooks in the kitchen?" Obviously, there weren't 8 chefs working together in one kitchen. The more I got to know her, the more I realized this gaffe was just a symptom of something larger: a self-obsessed person who wasn't very in touch with her surroundings. I'm not saying this is the case with the girl you speak of---but it's something to be aware of...
irresolute Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Please, act like a man and dump her. He doesnt see ypu in a romantic way, and you are frienzoned. See is not attracted to you. Might have been in the past, but now youre only her doormat friend. Move on.
preraph Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 You sound easily offended. People get in the habit of using pet names and nicknames and it's not restricted to one person. It's something they think is cute, period. You overreacted. I don't think she's all that into you at this point, but she did say she's very busy and people are very busy, so stop with any extra texting and don't ever text or call until she returns your text or call so she has enough space to get what she needs to do done. All you can do is respect that and wait and see if she keeps coming around. Sounds like you two don't have much to talk about to begin with, so not sure why you'd keep texting because all that does is give you less to talk about in person.
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