blur2007 Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 As I posted here about a month ago I was recently involved with a girl who had a bf that was long distance yet never talked about it and was seeing me and sleeping with me like we were a real couple. I invited her to talk and I asked her straight out where is everything going with us. She got mad and flipped out and told me I shouldn't put her in that position and that she doesn't have an answer and to just go with it. I took in what she told me and took a step back. I stopped being her pretend boyfriend and just started acting like a friend. She notices and says doesnt understand why. I tell her and she just ignores it. She's been going through some problems with family and stuff and I was always there for her when she needed someone. But now I'm not so available I'm starting not to care so much as I have my own problems going on that I need to take care of. She's been calling me and texting all the time saying she's been crying and saying she only trusts me. I feel bad because I don't want to get involved but at the same time idk if she's just trying to manipulate me to get my attention back on her. I also feel guilty she wants to see me but then I think that she really took me for granted when I was with her. Funny thing is last month she said she left to South America with her dad out of nowhere because she said something with her uncle. But I know she actually went to where her other guy was. I still know and never brought it up with her and she has no idea that I know. I don't want to use that against her because its going to start a whole other argument. Do women like this normally act like this? It seems like once they figure out I'm the one they want to be with its too late and I already have moved on. This is probably the 3rd time I had something like this happen.
ScreaminEagle Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 Normal women do not have boyfriends and then sleep with someone else. 1
Dallers Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 As I posted here about a month ago I was recently involved with a girl who had a bf that was long distance yet never talked about it and was seeing me and sleeping with me like we were a real couple. I invited her to talk and I asked her straight out where is everything going with us. She got mad and flipped out and told me I shouldn't put her in that position and that she doesn't have an answer and to just go with it. I took in what she told me and took a step back. I stopped being her pretend boyfriend and just started acting like a friend. She notices and says doesnt understand why. I tell her and she just ignores it. She's been going through some problems with family and stuff and I was always there for her when she needed someone. But now I'm not so available I'm starting not to care so much as I have my own problems going on that I need to take care of. She's been calling me and texting all the time saying she's been crying and saying she only trusts me. I feel bad because I don't want to get involved but at the same time idk if she's just trying to manipulate me to get my attention back on her. I also feel guilty she wants to see me but then I think that she really took me for granted when I was with her. Funny thing is last month she said she left to South America with her dad out of nowhere because she said something with her uncle. But I know she actually went to where her other guy was. I still know and never brought it up with her and she has no idea that I know. I don't want to use that against her because its going to start a whole other argument. Do women like this normally act like this? It seems like once they figure out I'm the one they want to be with its too late and I already have moved on. This is probably the 3rd time I had something like this happen. You are being used for sex OP. The question for you is really do you care? If you do then this is not what you want and you need to stop them using for sex. I get this a lot I guess I am just not relationship material. Luckily I do not care at the moment but do feel that I need to change the way I attract women because I am clearly giving off signals that I am great in this area but not going to hang around long enough to have a meaningful relationship. It bums sometimes when I actually meet a girl I would be willing to stay with but she just wants casual. You either embrace the gift you have to live your own life and have sex without a care in the world of you say no, end it and move on. She is bad news at the end of the day anyway so you do not want her for anything more than that. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 No, not all women are like this. Your mistake is you did not stand up for yourself. If this is your third time with such a situation then you are the one that is allowing these women to treat you in such a manner, to take you for granted. I feel your need to be in a relationship, albeit twisted, is greater than your self-respect. You need to fix that. You need to work on establishing your boundaries, and not be afraid of walking away from similar situations in the future. 3
Fondue Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 She likes your attention, but doesn't like you enough to want to date you. It is unfair to both YOU and HER BF. She's trash of a woman. Hopefully it bites her in the ass one day. Don't feed into her crap. Leave her. 1
Author blur2007 Posted November 6, 2014 Author Posted November 6, 2014 It just sucks because everything seems fine in the beginning then it just starts going downhill. I'm not desperate for a relationship or affection from someone as I used to be before. I don't mind being single because I have friends and I occupy myself with hobbies and such like music and other projects. I learned to appreciate myself and being alone. Once in a while I do get a little lonely but it passes and it's only natural to feel that way. But I sometimes come off as bitter towards relationships and I try to change that but as it never works out I figure sometimes it's not worth it. Idk how much longer I can keep this up. I really need someone to prove me wrong and that is going to take alot.
mammasita Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 How was it fine in the beginning? You knew she had a boyfriend from the beginning, right? You should really just walk away from women so willing to sex you when you know they are taken. 1
ScreaminEagle Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 OP this actually kind of puts a little dent in the your character. Why pursue someone who is taken, even if she is easy, coming on to you, etc ? Unless you want a one hitter quitter, ask yourself if she is relationship material, I say not even close.
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