Mi7522 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 To keep a long story short, we dated for about 4 months and everything went well, her kids, family and friends all liked me and told her so. The last 2 weeks I basically saw her everyday and I think that pushed her away. She told me she needed space which I have respected. We have been broken up for about 7 weeks now with LC but the last 2 weeks NC. I thought I was starting to feel better about everything and moving on but today I feel a bit down about everything and just need some encouragement about maintains NC because I feel like reaching out to her. Any advice? Should I send her a quick text?
Seeker12 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Did you get any closure? Or was it literally the shop shut down and everybody was expected to just chug along?
Author Mi7522 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 No closure other than her needing space, haven't really wanted to bring it up because I think she will just shut down
Seeker12 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Theres two options for you mate, i know how much it must hurt seriously bad, and the urges to get in contact with her must be immense. But the balls in her court, if she wants you she will come back, whether you will want her then is a different story. 2 options like i said, either you confront her and get your closure, which will damn hurt you, or two, you go NC and leave it and carry on with your life, itll be the most hard, ghoulish and unbearable thing to do, but NC and living your life is the surest and quickest way of doing things, even after closure youll need NC, so upto you man, but dont be all needy and obsessive, itll make you look seriously unattractive to your ex.
Author Mi7522 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 I think she believed I was needy hence she needed space but since the BU I've only contacted 3 times through text to get some of my stuff back. If she thought I was needy hopefully it's not looking that way now
Strength in Healing Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 What many people don't realize brother is that recovering from a breakup is much like riding a roller coaster with a blindfold; there are times during the experience that you think the worst is over, only to find out you couldn't be more wrong. Often times you feel a sense of euphoria a while after a breakup, but a dream, or anything really, will cause you to wake up one morning and you're back into the hell. This is natural. You go through highs and lows until the highs become more stable the lows fewer and further between. You have to persevere, or else you will be on that roller coaster indefinitely. It's not your loss. You clearly care, you have a heart. You're the one with the most value. 4
Chatmonkey Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 What many people don't realize brother is that recovering from a breakup is much like riding a roller coaster with a blindfold; there are times during the experience that you think the worst is over, only to find out you couldn't be more wrong. Often times you feel a sense of euphoria a while after a breakup, but a dream, or anything really, will cause you to wake up one morning and you're back into the hell. This is natural. You go through highs and lows until the highs become more stable the lows fewer and further between. You have to persevere, or else you will be on that roller coaster indefinitely. It's not your loss. You clearly care, you have a heart. You're the one with the most value. Best thing I've seen you write I've been NC and was doing well hitting gym and even getting a new job which was uplifting and then suddenly this afternoon feeling the worst I have in almost a week. Was so close to contacting but I know it will feel worse if I do and will take me back to day 1. It truly is a goddam blindfolded roller coaster. Best of luck to you op we are all in this together 1
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