Stumble Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I have known this guy for two years, since day 1 he shown interest and told me he liked me but I had a bf. Now I'm single for 6 months now and we reconnect again a few months ago. We kissed a few times already and I have spent a week with him in his hometown before at his place. Then he came for business trip in my city and we spent alot of time together and stayed with me a few times. Now we are planning to meet again in his hometown and i want to know if he feels the same, preferably before i go to see him. When I'm with him I feel so loved and very sure that he really likes me. However, we live far away we now only communicate by phone and facebook. I would ask him face to face but not very possible. Also I don't want to push pressure in him if he is not ready. Basically it was 1 whole month that we spent time together back and forth. My friends said I shouldn't have to ask him, he should tell me and let me know how he feels. I shouldn't have to question if a guy likes me, I should be able to feel it. I do feel that he loves me whenever I'm with him. What I know is that he really cares about me. Some others said I should ask so I don't wait around. I wanna ask him but don't wanna ruin what we have. We talked about him moving to my city in May when he finishes working on a big project. May is far away but worth waiting if he is serious about me. How shall I ask him? Or should I even ask him?
Redhead14 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I have known this guy for two years, since day 1 he shown interest and told me he liked me but I had a bf. Now I'm single for 6 months now and we reconnect again a few months ago. We kissed a few times already and I have spent a week with him in his hometown before at his place. Then he came for business trip in my city and we spent alot of time together and stayed with me a few times. Now we are planning to meet again in his hometown and i want to know if he feels the same, preferably before i go to see him. When I'm with him I feel so loved and very sure that he really likes me. However, we live far away we now only communicate by phone and facebook. I would ask him face to face but not very possible. Also I don't want to push pressure in him if he is not ready. Basically it was 1 whole month that we spent time together back and forth. My friends said I shouldn't have to ask him, he should tell me and let me know how he feels. I shouldn't have to question if a guy likes me, I should be able to feel it. I do feel that he loves me whenever I'm with him. What I know is that he really cares about me. Some others said I should ask so I don't wait around. I wanna ask him but don't wanna ruin what we have. We talked about him moving to my city in May when he finishes working on a big project. May is far away but worth waiting if he is serious about me. How shall I ask him? Or should I even ask him? I wouldn't worry about ruining what you have. You've been friends for a couple of years. If it does ruin what you have, you didn't have what you thought you had anyway. Just say, we've been friends for a long time now, I'd like to get together for a couple of drinks or dinner and maybe get to know you better. Go from there. 50/50 chance.
Author Stumble Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 I wouldn't worry about ruining what you have. You've been friends for a couple of years. If it does ruin what you have, you didn't have what you thought you had anyway. Just say, we've been friends for a long time now, I'd like to get together for a couple of drinks or dinner and maybe get to know you better. Go from there. 50/50 chance. Not that easy to do drinks and dinners, we live very very far away from each other.
Assasda Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Ahhh.... what do you want to ask him? Anyway, to go with your Title, Yes, I think you should tell him you like him
Author Stumble Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Ahhh.... what do you want to ask him? Anyway, to go with your Title, Yes, I think you should tell him you like him Ask if he likes me more than a friend. Whenever I'm with him I never question how he feels. I feel loved all the time. But when we are apart I can hardly find good time to get him to talk long enough to really get Into the topic and ask him. And sometimes I become unsure if he is really into me so I'm confused.
losangelena Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Well, you're probably not going to be able to tell just by guessing. Everyone's different. Some people are very good at verbalizing their emotions and some are not. I agree with the above poster that if he does have feelings for you, then you asking him will not be a big deal. If he reacts badly then why do you want to be with someone like that to begin with? You asking will not "ruin" anything. All it can do is reveal what is truly going on.
Assasda Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Ask if he likes me more than a friend. Whenever I'm with him I never question how he feels. I feel loved all the time. But when we are apart I can hardly find good time to get him to talk long enough to really get Into the topic and ask him. And sometimes I become unsure if he is really into me so I'm confused. If you can already tell, I dont think you should ask him. If you really want to ask him though, find a subtler way to do it
Author Stumble Posted November 5, 2014 Author Posted November 5, 2014 If you can already tell, I dont think you should ask him. If you really want to ask him though, find a subtler way to do it I cant tell that's the thing. When imwith him he is great, attention to me 100% and introduced me to his friends. When we r apart he now sometimes reply to me really late or doesnt message me as much &I start to have doubts.
787Dreamliner Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 How about throwing him some hints instead? Make it a bit obvious then from there see how it goes? If he likes you then he will take action from there and there you go, you are in a relationship. Good luck!
Iris17 Posted November 5, 2014 Posted November 5, 2014 (edited) How about throwing him some hints instead? Make it a bit obvious then from there see how it goes? If he likes you then he will take action from there and there you go, you are in a relationship. Good luck! Throw hints how? I'm going through similar thing Edited November 5, 2014 by Iris17
Author Stumble Posted November 5, 2014 Author Posted November 5, 2014 I did throw hints, saying I enjoy hanging out with you, we have a good connection. I'd really like to spend more time with you. Is that enough of hinting? Or do I need to be more forward????
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