todreaminblue Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 There are 4 people on the lease and they all moved in at the same time. Yet, he believes that he is the "homeowner" in a sense. I moved into with my girlfriend soon after. Obviously we needed to get permission from everyone before I did so. this is where it gets tricky for a guy who lives with women.......he "believes" he is the alpha male and you are another male coming in..so he might be worried about his supposed position in the house......he sees you as a threat......whether or not he likes your gf or not...its his position in the house probably that he is concerned about.....could be why he is stand offish with you......i do second what other posters have said and that when a serious relationship is on the cards with you and her, a plan for her to move out might be the best bet...... ......deb
Author bz42 Posted November 6, 2014 Author Posted November 6, 2014 Ok guys, so last night I apologized to my girlfriend. I apologized for behaving the way I did in regards to everything involving her guy friend. I have realized that the solution was in front of me this whole time, and spending all of my energy and efforts on battling "her guy friend" has made me neglect the most important facets of our relationship. I now believe that, building/maintaining a happy and healthy relationship with my girlfriend is the best solution for anything. I just thought I should share that with you guys. I have already felt that our relationship is not the same as it once was after I began an active approach in solving our living situation. Feelings like uncertainty, resentment, fear, unhappy, sad, angry, disappointment are all combining in a cloud over this relationship. If this continues, this will end terribly. I think since I have been the main cause for these bad feelings, I have the most control in making them go away. I hope you guys can understand what I'm trying to say. Any advice on how to move forward from this, and how to gain back what we lost as far as our relationship goes would be greatly appreciated. Our relationship took a very nasty detour away from the path that it was on, largely due to fault of my own. Any advice on getting our relationship back to where it was? Thank you all for helping and being with me through this. Without all of you, I'm not sure what I may or may not have figured out or done. What you guys do is admirable, and without the help of you guys this relationship may have gone to dust. I let her guy friend blind me, and for all I know he could be sitting there waiting, and waiting for it to all explode. It was a nice try, but now it's my turn. = )
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