Am i just the type of guy women cheat on?

[MistaYates]

BTW it is now Day 5 of NC. Still kills me inside, but hopefully i can beat my record of two weeks, and make it months. And then forget about this bitch..

Edited November 5, 2014 by MistaYates

[Diezel]

My ex left me for her ex boyfriend, i know she was cheating on me with him. She was my first love.

 

So what you're saying is that you are 0/1?

 

That's it?

[mtnbiker3000]

But wouldnt the fact that her and her ex have been together for so long, make my fight for her a losing battle anyways? Due to them having so much time invested into each other, and sharing more than i could give?

 

Im just trying to understand.. Because my girl left me for him within 3 days. But she left him for me within the same time period.

 

Maybe its not that im the type to get cheated on, its just she couldnt get over him, and decided to use me as her emotional band-aid until the scars he left were healed. Then she didnt need me anymore.

 

I just want to convince myself that it was her and not me. Because i always seem to blame myself.

 

Yes. She is a wreck herself!!! A healthy person wouldn't do these things to themselves or another person. She is not a good choice for a partner.

 

The only thing you should be questioning is why you allowed it to happen to you. Don't try to understand her behavior. That is impossible, futile and won't help at all. Get right with yourself and know that there are plenty of quality women who will be attracted to a strong, confident you. A you that knows he can have whatever he wants and won't settle for crap!! Your ex is not this person!!

[johnson_j]

Mista Yates - listen to me. Same thing happened to me in 2007 and 2014. To give a brief recap, both of those girls pursued me heavily, fell in love, and then it fell apart suddenly because their EX contacted them. I was going to marry 2007 girl, and 2014 girl said she wanted to spend her life with me. These were both > 6 month relationships.

 

Let me tell you that being in this situation HURTS massively. The 2014 girl was worse, she lied and lied about it, even when I showed her evidence (mainly FB page with their picture). Then it was MY fault for finding out and she cut me off like only a psycho would do, only to call me months later and let me know she didn't do anything wrong and that she is happy with him now. Except that her friend called me and told me she is again miserable with him, so she is still lying. And I don't really care.

 

The 2007 girl, situation was a little different but same overall. It hurt like hell. But we are now friends again, she is married to another man now, of course it didn't work out with her "then" ex and it never will with 2014 girl either. Just last week 2007 girl emailed me and basically admitted she screwed the whole thing up years ago but is glad I was mature about it.

 

Let me tell you what I wish I had done with 2014 girl. SLAMMED THE DOOR IN HER FACE. Yep, she called and pleaded every time I pulled away from her. She told me she needed me. Begged me to be there waiting for her. Told me how bad he was to her. Told me how good I was to her. Asked me to be patient with her. And yet still went running back to him time and time again. It's been a good 7 months since we've seen each other, and the pain is now a general numbness, but sometimes it's still there. I only wish I had listened to myself and cut her out of my life when the first problems surfaced. It's also good that she's not in my life anymore because I don't want a liar/cheater hanging around, and I suspect he doesn't want her long term either. I now know she is immature and a drama queen and don't want that in my life. You're right, I was darn good to her and she knows it. And she will regret it if she doesn't already. Your girl is the same. Meanwhile, you go out and life you life and have an awesome time and leave drama where it belongs: to be someone elses' problem.

[MistaYates]

Mista Yates - listen to me. Same thing happened to me in 2007 and 2014. To give a brief recap, both of those girls pursued me heavily, fell in love, and then it fell apart suddenly because their EX contacted them. I was going to marry 2007 girl, and 2014 girl said she wanted to spend her life with me. These were both > 6 month relationships.

 

Let me tell you that being in this situation HURTS massively. The 2014 girl was worse, she lied and lied about it, even when I showed her evidence (mainly FB page with their picture). Then it was MY fault for finding out and she cut me off like only a psycho would do, only to call me months later and let me know she didn't do anything wrong and that she is happy with him now. Except that her friend called me and told me she is again miserable with him, so she is still lying. And I don't really care.

 

The 2007 girl, situation was a little different but same overall. It hurt like hell. But we are now friends again, she is married to another man now, of course it didn't work out with her "then" ex and it never will with 2014 girl either. Just last week 2007 girl emailed me and basically admitted she screwed the whole thing up years ago but is glad I was mature about it.

 

Let me tell you what I wish I had done with 2014 girl. SLAMMED THE DOOR IN HER FACE. Yep, she called and pleaded every time I pulled away from her. She told me she needed me. Begged me to be there waiting for her. Told me how bad he was to her. Told me how good I was to her. Asked me to be patient with her. And yet still went running back to him time and time again. It's been a good 7 months since we've seen each other, and the pain is now a general numbness, but sometimes it's still there. I only wish I had listened to myself and cut her out of my life when the first problems surfaced. It's also good that she's not in my life anymore because I don't want a liar/cheater hanging around, and I suspect he doesn't want her long term either. I now know she is immature and a drama queen and don't want that in my life. You're right, I was darn good to her and she knows it. And she will regret it if she doesn't already. Your girl is the same. Meanwhile, you go out and life you life and have an awesome time and leave drama where it belongs: to be someone elses' problem.

 

I just wish there was a girl who wants me and only me. Where are you at right now? Are you with another girl?

 

Do you think loyal women still exist? Or am i just picking the wrong ones. Man i just wish i can just find one, and be done. I know people like to get as many women as they can. But i just want one. One that the only thing i ask out of her is to tell me she loves me at the end of the night. Thats all i ask. So then i can focus on everything else in my life. Love is my priority right now, even though it shouldnt. I dont want to be alone..

 

But can i get that? No. They have to play games, and trick us, and tell us they love us, but they really dont. Sometimes i wonder about the scientifically proven fact that women mature faster than men.

 

Boy do they play a lot of immature games.

[Michelle ma Belle]

You probably pick the wrong kind of woman.

 

I agree with Woggle.

 

As hard as it may be to believe but this has really very little to do with YOU and more to do with the type of women you're attracting and dating.

 

There is a toxic pattern here therefore break the pattern! Do something radical and watch as the changes unfold as a result.

 

Good luck.

[johnson_j]

I just wish there was a girl who wants me and only me. Where are you at right now? Are you with another girl?

 

Do you think loyal women still exist? Or am i just picking the wrong ones. Man i just wish i can just find one, and be done. I know people like to get as many women as they can. But i just want one. One that the only thing i ask out of her is to tell me she loves me at the end of the night. Thats all i ask. So then i can focus on everything else in my life. Love is my priority right now, even though it shouldnt. I dont want to be alone..

 

But can i get that? No. They have to play games, and trick us, and tell us they love us, but they really dont. Sometimes i wonder about the scientifically proven fact that women mature faster than men.

 

Boy do they play a lot of immature games.

 

 

The wrong women play immature games.

 

 

Let me add something more. Right after 2007 girl, I met a beautiful girl. She was loyal, beautiful, extremely smart. And I messed it up - because I felt it was too quick after walking away from a mess. I still regret that, but I know I was the problem and it wasn't her.

 

 

Yes, I think loyal women do exist. It seems harder to find these days. The most important thing for you is to not be jaded or let one bad experience destroy you.

 

 

I am not dating anyone right now. I just flushed two women out of my life, both were starting to play games and I recognized it early. Look I'm probably double your age and I'm still hopeful, so you don't give up!

 

Don't be a fix-it man. If a woman doesn't come to the table bringing something, but wants to take a lot away, be concerned. That's the trap I fell into both times.

[MistaYates]

The wrong women play immature games.

 

 

Let me add something more. Right after 2007 girl, I met a beautiful girl. She was loyal, beautiful, extremely smart. And I messed it up - because I felt it was too quick after walking away from a mess. I still regret that, but I know I was the problem and it wasn't her.

 

 

Yes, I think loyal women do exist. It seems harder to find these days. The most important thing for you is to not be jaded or let one bad experience destroy you.

 

 

I am not dating anyone right now. I just flushed two women out of my life, both were starting to play games and I recognized it early. Look I'm probably double your age and I'm still hopeful, so you don't give up!

 

Don't be a fix-it man. If a woman doesn't come to the table bringing something, but wants to take a lot away, be concerned. That's the trap I fell into both times.

 

The thing is, she was with this guy for 3 years. I just wish i had her heart first.. She would cheat with other people as soon as that guy gave her the OK that he wants to get back together.