Got Crushed :(

[Chemist]

Oh snap, liked this girl quite a bit. We went out a few times, I took her to dinner, I cooked her dinner.. apparently I thought she knew these were dates. Well, finally at this party she was getting ready to leave, I just flat out told her I thought she was beautiful, and I am interested in her, and I asked her on a date.

 

She sent me a message that she thought I was an amazing person but no she did not want to go on a date with me.

 

Well I ****ed up and sent her a message later when I was drunk basically saying that it stung and I feel foolish to think a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me, and then asked her why she said no... That I would like to be friends but I would need some time before or I would just make a fool of myself.

 

Now I am worried she is going to think I am a super weirdo.. any chance I can save face on this? Also, any tips on getting over her? She was one of those 1/1000 girls... I never feel like this over a girl... and it was nothing but I let myself get excited over this. I wanted it so badly. I feel insecure now, I feel inadequate, angry at myself...

[Redhead14]

Oh snap, liked this girl quite a bit. We went out a few times, I took her to dinner, I cooked her dinner.. apparently I thought she knew these were dates. Well, finally at this party she was getting ready to leave, I just flat out told her I thought she was beautiful, and I am interested in her, and I asked her on a date.

 

She sent me a message that she thought I was an amazing person but no she did not want to go on a date with me.

 

Well I ****ed up and sent her a message later when I was drunk basically saying that it stung and I feel foolish to think a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me, and then asked her why she said no... That I would like to be friends but I would need some time before or I would just make a fool of myself.

 

Now I am worried she is going to think I am a super weirdo.. any chance I can save face on this? Also, any tips on getting over her? She was one of those 1/1000 girls... I never feel like this over a girl... and it was nothing but I let myself get excited over this. I wanted it so badly. I feel insecure now, I feel inadequate, angry at myself...

 

It doesn't matter if she thinks you are a super wierdo . . . you were drunk and sounded needey and insecure at the worst. You've done what lots of people do. You're not weird, are you? Anyway, the only way to "recover" from this kind of thing is to not do it again and leave it in the past. She isn't interested in dating you, so be it. Ask someone else out.

[J21]

Oh snap, liked this girl quite a bit. We went out a few times, I took her to dinner, I cooked her dinner.. apparently I thought she knew these were dates. Well, finally at this party she was getting ready to leave, I just flat out told her I thought she was beautiful, and I am interested in her, and I asked her on a date.

 

She sent me a message that she thought I was an amazing person but no she did not want to go on a date with me.

 

Well I ****ed up and sent her a message later when I was drunk basically saying that it stung and I feel foolish to think a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me, and then asked her why she said no... That I would like to be friends but I would need some time before or I would just make a fool of myself.

 

Now I am worried she is going to think I am a super weirdo.. any chance I can save face on this? Also, any tips on getting over her? She was one of those 1/1000 girls... I never feel like this over a girl... and it was nothing but I let myself get excited over this. I wanted it so badly. I feel insecure now, I feel inadequate, angry at myself...

If she didn't lose interest before, she's gone and lost it by now 100000%.

 

"I feel foolish to think a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me," If you yourself don't believe you deserve to be with her, why the eff should she? You sounded like a sappy little boy feeling sorry for yourself and that sure isn't attractive in anyone's eyes.

 

Nothing looks worse than a guy looking for validation from a woman, you're suppose to be your own man. Cmon man.

 

Don't try and salvage this. Don't even try and be friends with her, because it'll be awkward and you'll end up putting yourself in an awkward position if she finds someone else.

 

Not trying to put you down, because what's done is done. But chalk it up as a lesson learned and man the eff up next time.

Edited November 4, 2014 by J21

[Ruby Slippers]

Hey, you had the balls to ask out a girl you really like. That takes a lot of courage - and though I'm sure as a man approaching women you will be rejected many more times in your life, eventually you will be rewarded for taking the risk.

 

Next time, I'm sure you won't make a disparaging comment about yourself in response to a rejection. Attraction is mysterious. I've been at times very attracted to men I shouldn't be, and not at all attracted to men I should, and no amount of thinking about it would change the feelings.

 

The positive of taking the risk is more important than the negative of the rejection. Focus on that and keep it up - eventually you'll find a great girl who also feels it for you.

[preraph]

I guess she went out with you a few times and just realized you two weren't right for each other. Now, if you're not right for her, regardless that you don't understand why, that means you're not right for each other and that she isn't the right one for you. You did screw up, but once she came out and said no more dating, it was over anyway, so you didn't lose anything. Staying friends is a waste of time here. That never works.

[Chemist]

If she didn't lose interest before, she's gone and lost it by now 100000%.

 

"I feel foolish to think a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me," If you yourself don't believe you deserve to be with her, why the eff should she? You sounded like a sappy little boy feeling sorry for yourself and that sure isn't attractive in anyone's eyes.

 

Nothing looks worse than a guy looking for validation from a woman, you're suppose to be your own man. Cmon man.

 

Don't try and salvage this. Don't even try and be friends with her, because it'll be awkward and you'll end up putting yourself in an awkward position if she finds someone else.

 

Not trying to put you down, because what's done is done. But chalk it up as a lesson learned and man the eff up next time.

 

Fully agree man. I know; I never do this ****, but this one was amazing.. and it ****ing hurt to get rejected by here. I never let myself get hurt and I never do this ****ing ****. I am ashamed of myself and am embarrassed by it. But it won't happen again. Though I think I would really like to be her friend. I don't harbor hard feelings if a girl doesn't like me. I just got a little insecure there.

 

I already have two more dates, lol. I just don't know if these girls are amazing or not.

[Assasda]

Yeah man. That was a terrible doting text messag.

You put her high on the pedestal.

- I dont think there is anyway to save face.

 

Throw yourself into other stuff to move on man

[Chemist]

****ing booze. I didn't mean to, and is completely out of character for me, to send such a message. ****. oh well, wasn't going to change anything anyway, as some others said... doesn't ****ing matter.

[Chemist]

Well, she sent me a message today. Before she could say anything, I just asked her straight up if she could ignore my last message because I guess it was a mistake to send. That I am sure I sounded insecure and needy... That in the end, it doesn't matter and I was just disappointed. I regret the message but not telling her how I felt, despite the answer and that I feel awesome again.

 

She said she would forget the message, and then we talked for a bit. I think it is fine, we will be friends. I usually never do this ****, and I can handle being friends.

 

And in two months, I will do it again because I don't ****ing care. Bahaha.

Or I find someone else to occupy my time.

[JuneJulySeptember]

Oh snap, liked this girl quite a bit. We went out a few times, I took her to dinner, I cooked her dinner.. apparently I thought she knew these were dates. Well, finally at this party she was getting ready to leave, I just flat out told her I thought she was beautiful, and I am interested in her, and I asked her on a date.

 

She sent me a message that she thought I was an amazing person but no she did not want to go on a date with me.

 

Well I ****ed up and sent her a message later when I was drunk basically saying that it stung and I feel foolish to think a girl like her would be interested in a guy like me, and then asked her why she said no... That I would like to be friends but I would need some time before or I would just make a fool of myself.

 

Now I am worried she is going to think I am a super weirdo.. any chance I can save face on this? Also, any tips on getting over her? She was one of those 1/1000 girls... I never feel like this over a girl... and it was nothing but I let myself get excited over this. I wanted it so badly. I feel insecure now, I feel inadequate, angry at myself...

 

I believe most women DO know that men are interested in them, pretty much always, when they are out one-on-one. They just deny it. Anyway, that is a different topic. Just another thing you need to keep in mind.

 

There is no 1/1000 until a woman likes you. Then, she is the 1/1000. Repeat it with me. Only then, is the the 1 in 1000. It may literally be 1 in 1000 too.

[smackie9]

Girl's number one turn off....pitty party. Lashing out did make you look pathetic. Next time gracefully accept the turn down. I have a feeling you liked her waaaaaaaay too much and it made her feel uncomfortable. Pull back on the reins, shield your emotions until you are exclusive with the next girl.