Thinking of asking a friend out how should I

[DirtyHairy]

Well I've known this girl for a few months now and we've become fairly good friends. Hang out in class together, she texts me quite a bit and we've gone for coffee together and stuff.

 

I just keep getting this vibe from her that she likes me and wants to be more than a friend.

I say this because say I'm in the library studying she will text me and see what I'm doing and drive all the way to where I am just to study with me even if she is busy. Also another time was when I casually mentioned I was going for coffee (local cafe) and she asked me where, what time and if I was going alone. So I obviously invited her and we chatted for like 1.5hrs.

 

She's super sweet and I make her laugh a lot and I get the vibe that she does like me.

Only issue is I want to ask her out but if she says no it may be awkward for her because of a project we have together. I would just shrug it off if she says no but she may not.

Also how would I ask her out in a way where I am implying as "more than friends" we can't really do the whole coffee thing because I know her pretty good so probably take her to a nice dinner.

 

Anyways any advice? I'm kind of in the from of mind of "you miss all the chances you don't take, so take a few chances". I like her and would like to date her so I should ask her out just not sure how.

[Tik]

The tricky part here is that you've started off as friends. By all means it has its good and bad. Of current don't profess anything. Let things flow as they go. Keep hanging out with her. There will come a point where your relationship will reach a cross road with her. It's this little window of opportunity you have to seize. Maybe you guys are mucking around play fighting and you or she ends up on top of you. Go for the kiss; don't hold back. Or maybe she subtly drops it she wants a night out with you. Then ask her out.

[DirtyHairy]

Ya I agree that starting as friends can put me and her in a tricky situation.

I'm not very good at reading vibes but for some reason I'm really getting the vibe that she likes me.

 

I will definitely just continue to hang out with her and stuff and wait for that time where it seems like we both want something more. Then I'll ask her out.

Its actually been pretty interesting so far though because being friends makes its easy to get to know her and if we do transition into dating it would be much more of an easy step.

 

I'm not getting my hopes up but I I haveto admit I am a little excited about this whole thing because we seem to compliment each other well and have matching goals etc

[Redhead14]

How about, "let's get together for dinner on Friday night?"

[DirtyHairy]

How about, "let's get together for dinner on Friday night?"

 

Well that is the plan for sure....I just don't want her to think of it as going as just friend you know? I geuss I could just ask her like that and I'm sure she would probably ask " as a date?".

[Redhead14]

Well that is the plan for sure....I just don't want her to think of it as going as just friend you know? I geuss I could just ask her like that and I'm sure she would probably ask " as a date?".

 

Even if she doesn't, if she accepts, go out an enjoy yourselves. You will know "where" she is during that time. At the end of the "date", tell her you'd like to spend more time with her and plan another date. Gauge it from there. You're opening the door for more, if she comes through it, great.

[DirtyHairy]

Ya that's true I will just have to gauge how she acts while we do go out somewhere together.

 

Maybe I should just go for a fun date type thing? I think I'm going to see if I can set something up for later in the week maybe

[Omei]

Well I've known this girl for a few months now and we've become fairly good friends. Hang out in class together, she texts me quite a bit and we've gone for coffee together and stuff.

 

I just keep getting this vibe from her that she likes me and wants to be more than a friend.

I say this because say I'm in the library studying she will text me and see what I'm doing and drive all the way to where I am just to study with me even if she is busy. Also another time was when I casually mentioned I was going for coffee (local cafe) and she asked me where, what time and if I was going alone. So I obviously invited her and we chatted for like 1.5hrs.

 

She's super sweet and I make her laugh a lot and I get the vibe that she does like me.

Only issue is I want to ask her out but if she says no it may be awkward for her because of a project we have together. I would just shrug it off if she says no but she may not.

Also how would I ask her out in a way where I am implying as "more than friends" we can't really do the whole coffee thing because I know her pretty good so probably take her to a nice dinner.

 

Anyways any advice? I'm kind of in the from of mind of "you miss all the chances you don't take, so take a few chances". I like her and would like to date her so I should ask her out just not sure how.

 

If that's the case then just go for it! if you can shrug off the rejection your friendship should be fine since its usually the rejected that can't continue so give it a shot.

[Assasda]

You should try to go out and have fun with her.

 

Try flirting with her more, maybe a little more risky inuendos. Kinda look in her eyes when youre telling her something a little more loving.

 

I think you have to take it from there.

Being friends with a girl is not the ideal place that you may way to start from.

 

If you ever ask her out somewhere and she says "As a date?" just say "Sure"

 

Also, see other women

[Tayken]

Additionally to all that has been said, it could turn out awkward if she is not feeling it like that i.e. doesn't see things going past the friend zone.

 

Tricky but worth a try...what do you have to lose? A friend