Thegreatestthing Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 For the last two days he constantly starts arguments non stop till I have the worst headache I don't even know whSt he's arguing about, he just says I'm hurting him,ignoring him etc and won't say how etc etc. I'm not an arguing person so it's stressing me out.i have been taking ages to reply to his texts lately and maybe that's making him feel ignored and that's why he is acting like this. I just don't know how to get him to stop or how to assure him. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 Ask him calmly what he claims you are doing that is hurting him. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted November 4, 2014 Share Posted November 4, 2014 I mean "what" is he arguing about? Are there any external pressures taking place (i.e. finances, job, stress)? Need to know more to find out if he's mad at "you" or there's other things going on. Link to post Share on other sites
SincereOnlineGuy Posted November 5, 2014 Share Posted November 5, 2014 Bf won't stop arguing with me? OK, stop arguing with him... Link to post Share on other sites
Mister Zen Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 It takes two people to argue. Its your fault as much as his. Its a little thing called: STOP RESPONDING. Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted November 6, 2014 Share Posted November 6, 2014 Greatest...while you are dating, your relationship is the best its going to be. He is on his best behavior. So, if you don't like constant arguing, him trying to make you feel guilty and responsible for his hurt feelings, the constant stress of wondering what he is upset about now...get out. Tell him you are no longer interested in being involved in this kind of toxic mess. I'm not going to claim he is a budding abuser. But, I will tell you that the longer you put up with a guy claiming you hurt his feelings but not telling you why (which causes you to constantly check your behavior instead of being able to relax) will eventually cause you issues that will have long lasting effects. And if you have kids with him, it will affect them also. They will become fearful and timid, afraid of taking action and doing what ever they can to avoid conflict. That being said, if this is new behavior...then either he is having problems else where and is taking it out on you (which is still super bad and should not be tolerated) or he is doing something he is guilty about and is taking that guilt out on you, or he wants you to break up with him and he is to cowardly to do it himself. But no matter what the reason, if it were me, I would tell him that he needs to figure out what bug crawled up his butt, kill it and call you when the side effects wear off because you are done being his verbal punching bag. Then go out and live you life and be more careful to date drama free guys. Good luck 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Thegreatestthing Posted November 6, 2014 Author Share Posted November 6, 2014 Good advice,it did cross my mind that maybe he was trying to break up with me by constantly arguing .but I think he was just feeling insecure because I've been ignoring him constantly lately - I am just immersed in so many things that I haven't given him any time. he sent me an article about how not giving your pArtner time is the same as cheating. We haven't argued at all today so that's good. Link to post Share on other sites
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