riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 It was pretty long so I will just paraphrase: I am the nicest guy she has ever met. She still cares for me. She wishes it would have worked out but it didn't. I live my life too conventionally and she wants to do crazy things and make mistakes and wants a partner to do that with. Please lets be friends. I'm pretty sure she banged some other guy the night before she dumped me.
Million.to.1 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 That sucks mate. She sounds immature. Don't reply. Go NC. especially if you think she cheated. She doesn't deserve your friendship. she just wants to ease her guilt. 2
Ordinaryday Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 her email basically says "I love you but Im not in love with you" which is just a polite way of saying "Im not attracted to you". in other words, even though she dumped you and is sticking by her decision and doesnt want you back she wants an email from you letting her know that things are okay and that you are not mad at her. she wants her conscience cleared and that email is about her, not you. dont waste your time replying to it.
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 her email basically says "I love you but Im not in love with you" which is just a polite way of saying "Im not attracted to you". in other words, even though she dumped you and is sticking by her decision and doesnt want you back she wants an email from you letting her know that things are okay and that you are not mad at her. she wants her conscience cleared and that email is about her, not you. dont waste your time replying to it. Sounds like GIGS
Chi townD Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Dude, she dumped you and now she's feeling guilty. If she did screw that guy, that only compounds the guilt. So, she's reaching out to you to see where your head is at and see if you hate her. That's one thing about most women. They can't stand the fact that there might be a person on this planet that doesn't think they're a nice person or someone that hates them. Drives them nuts. Stay NC and let her hold onto her guilt. Not your job to ease that for her. She made her choice and unfortunately you weren't it. She made the choice to have you out of her life. You're just giving her what she's asking for.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Sounds like GIGS Doesnt matter what it is, the result is the same and will stay that way. Keep moving forward
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 The only upside is that you pick nice women. Yes, you still got hurt but she is a quality person who doesn't want you to be in pain. Take that little kindness & move forward secure in the knowledge that you don't fall for crazy chicks. While polite is kind of breadcrumbs & it still sucks, it's better than a lot of other alternatives.
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 The only upside is that you pick nice women. Yes, you still got hurt but she is a quality person who doesn't want you to be in pain. Take that little kindness & move forward secure in the knowledge that you don't fall for crazy chicks. While polite is kind of breadcrumbs & it still sucks, it's better than a lot of other alternatives. She f'd some other guy the night we were supposed to go out. Just a few weeks after I loaned her $2K. She could have had the decency of breaking it off before doing that. Doesn't sound very "quality" to me.
Chi townD Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 She f'd some other guy the night we were supposed to go out. Just a few weeks after I loaned her $2K. She could have had the decency of breaking it off before doing that. Doesn't sound very "quality" to me. Sorry that happened, dude. But, you can't get pissy with Donnivain when your first post was only 6-7 sentences long. Hard to glean anything from that. 1
evanescentworld Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Possible suitable responses: I am the nicest guy she has ever met. "You're absolutely right. I'm the nicest guy I've ever met, too. " She still cares for me. "What... you mean...like a pet rabbit or something?" She wishes it would have worked out but it didn't. "Liar. If you REALLY wished that, we'd still be together, trying to work it out. Your heart wasn't in it, and your tush was somewhere else, anyway...." I live my life too conventionally and she wants to do crazy things and make mistakes and wants a partner to do that with. "So...it really ISN'T me, it iS you. You want to be reckless, irresponsible, possibly do illegal risky things, all in the name of supposed fun? Be my guest. Enjoy. Don't call me for bail money though. You've already had $2k, that's your lot." Please lets be friends. "You're kidding, right? Tell you what - you can be my bestest buddy ever, and pay me back the two grand - then you go your way, and I'll go mine...." 1
Simon Phoenix Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 She f'd some other guy the night we were supposed to go out. Just a few weeks after I loaned her $2K. She could have had the decency of breaking it off before doing that. Doesn't sound very "quality" to me. Glad you are finally getting angry instead of wondering if you should send "thanks" for a random, meaningless text message.
d0nnivain Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 She f'd some other guy the night we were supposed to go out. Just a few weeks after I loaned her $2K. She could have had the decency of breaking it off before doing that. Doesn't sound very "quality" to me. I was trying to make you feel better & ALL I knew was that she sent you what on his face without any other context seemed like a nice note. Her actions now that you have pointed them out to me do make her bad person. For your sake I hope you have a writing that you loaned her the $2k otherwise you can kiss it goodbye because you are never going to see it again.
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Glad you are finally getting angry instead of wondering if you should send "thanks" for a random, meaningless text message. Two weeks before she dumped me she asked me to take GHB with her and have sex. I said no. She kept insisting and I kept saying no till she stopped. Guess she found someone else who'd say yes!
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Didn't she return the 2k? No. When she dumped me I asked if she was going to pay me back and she said yes and asked if I wanted her to write out a note to me. LOL
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Sorry that happened, dude. But, you can't get pissy with Donnivain when your first post was only 6-7 sentences long. Hard to glean anything from that. I'm sorry it wasn't my intention to get pissy with Donnivain so I apologize if it came off like that. 1
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 I was trying to make you feel better & ALL I knew was that she sent you what on his face without any other context seemed like a nice note. Her actions now that you have pointed them out to me do make her bad person. For your sake I hope you have a writing that you loaned her the $2k otherwise you can kiss it goodbye because you are never going to see it again. Sorry if I came across as mad at you bro, I was not. TY for your support.
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Didn't she return the 2k? No, I doubt I'll see that $ again.
evanescentworld Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 No, I doubt I'll see that $ again. ...hence my post.... Bit mean, but it really says all you need to say. I'm not suggesting you reply though.....
Author riokid180 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 ...hence my post.... Bit mean, but it really says all you need to say. I'm not suggesting you reply though..... Oh I'm not. I learned from here last breakup (in March). NC is the only way to go.
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