hollowheartrobot Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I met a cute guy through a friend, and I quickly noticed him constantly glancing/staring at me. During our 3rd encounter, again there were numerous times I caught him staring, and I eventually found the courage to hold his gaze a few times. We would end up looking at each other for an intense amount of time, way beyond normal/friendly silent eye contact. Usually to me this is a pretty good sign of attraction. So during a small few of these staring moments, I decided to give him a smile. And each time it seemed the smile would make him almost immediately look away from me. He's definitely on the shy side, but it's confusing that he would be confident enough to hold my gaze for so long only to act uninterested when I give him a positive reaction. And despite these few odd moments, he continued to engage with me enthusiastically (staring still included). Why seem so intrigued and hold my gaze so intensely, then turn away from my positive response? Is he not actually interested? There are a few signs that say he is aside from the staring, but this is really throwing me off.
Gloria25 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Since you are in the same social circles as him, how 'bout chatting him up? Maybe start it off with like, 'I've noticed you around...Hi, my name is X, what's yours?' And go from there.... Since you are friends of friends, hopefully you can engage him w/o pressuring him and/or being like "Why are you staring at me?"
OwMyEyeball Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 He's probably just trying to figure out which part of you to eat first KIDDING KIDDING!!! He's shy and hasn't been socialized for attracting women. Childhood abuse? Sexual assault victim? Got a D in grade 5 math? Who knows. He's not going to learn how to assert himself until ... he learns how to assert himself. So unless you want to be the masculine side of this romance you may want to hold off. 1
Assasda Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I met a cute guy through a friend, and I quickly noticed him constantly glancing/staring at me. During our 3rd encounter, again there were numerous times I caught him staring, and I eventually found the courage to hold his gaze a few times. We would end up looking at each other for an intense amount of time, way beyond normal/friendly silent eye contact. Usually to me this is a pretty good sign of attraction. So during a small few of these staring moments, I decided to give him a smile. And each time it seemed the smile would make him almost immediately look away from me. He's definitely on the shy side, but it's confusing that he would be confident enough to hold my gaze for so long only to act uninterested when I give him a positive reaction. And despite these few odd moments, he continued to engage with me enthusiastically (staring still included). Why seem so intrigued and hold my gaze so intensely, then turn away from my positive response? Is he not actually interested? There are a few signs that say he is aside from the staring, but this is really throwing me off. OP, He is interested. He's just a big fat Wuss. Sorry Please guys, this is a tell-tale sign from girls. Have the confidence to keep looking at them and dont turn away. This dude did everything thing wrong.
somedude81 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 OP, He is interested. He's just a big fat Wuss. Sorry Please guys, this is a tell-tale sign from girls. Have the confidence to keep looking at them and dont turn away. This dude did everything thing wrong. And yet here she is making a new account on a relationship forum to ask a question about him...
Redhead14 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 And yet here she is making a new account on a relationship forum to ask a question about him... There are no mixed signals here. If he was really, really interested, shy or not, he'd make it clear. Until it's clear, keep moving.
you_can_not_see_me Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I met a cute guy through a friend, and I quickly noticed him constantly glancing/staring at me. During our 3rd encounter, again there were numerous times I caught him staring, and I eventually found the courage to hold his gaze a few times. We would end up looking at each other for an intense amount of time, way beyond normal/friendly silent eye contact. Usually to me this is a pretty good sign of attraction. So during a small few of these staring moments, I decided to give him a smile. And each time it seemed the smile would make him almost immediately look away from me. He's definitely on the shy side, but it's confusing that he would be confident enough to hold my gaze for so long only to act uninterested when I give him a positive reaction. And despite these few odd moments, he continued to engage with me enthusiastically (staring still included). Why seem so intrigued and hold my gaze so intensely, then turn away from my positive response? Is he not actually interested? There are a few signs that say he is aside from the staring, but this is really throwing me off. Most likely when you smile at him he gets psyched out and that's why he looks away, its a very typical shy person behavior.
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