jlove7813 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Hello all! I am new to this site and I am looking forward to sharing some advice with you all! About a month ago, my girlfriend of two years broke up with me. And though I have certain ideas of why she did so, I don't believe that these ideas are enough to break up with someone who treated her as good as I did. I truly believe that she either found another man who appealed to her more, or she was not satisfied sexually with me anymore. In the beginning, our sex life was terrific. It was so good, that she decided to go on the birth control pill for a few months. Our sex was so wild at the time that I ordered some toys to enhance our sexual experiences even more, and she was totally cool with it! But as time went on, our sex life started to slowly die off and it was almost like she has no attraction to me anymore, in that way. I tried many times to make the first move, but she seemed so distant that I was almost nervous to try to touch her, so most of the time, I didn't. I know women say that size doesn't matter, but I believe it does. I would say that I have an average sized penis, not too big but not tiny, either. Sometimes during our sexual encounters, she would ride me so good that I would explode within minutes, which I'm sure she definitely didn't like, but I would apologize to her when it happened and promise her that I would make it up to her. But the start of the downfall was when she decided to stop taking the birth control pill because she claimed it, "made her feel emotionally weird" After that, she still did not want to go back to using condoms, so we would have unprotected sex for the remainder of our relationship, even though we barely had any sex at this point. Then eventually there was a complete disconnect where we would barely even kiss and even though I knew something was wrong, I was too comfortable to accept it. This eventually led to her getting fed up with me one day and just breaking down to tell me that she doesn't feel the same about me anymore and that she was moving out. I honestly think that she either found someone else or just wasn't sexually satisfied with me and she had to move on. What does it sound like to ya'll?
mtnbiker3000 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I don't believe that these ideas are enough to break up with someone who treated her as good as I did... ...but I would apologize to her when it happened and promise her that I would make it up to her. Maybe you treated her a bit too good. Did you make her your top priority? Did you forgo your own wants and needs to accommodate hers? Also, never apologize for anything that happens in the bedroom. This makes you look incredibly pitiful and weak!! Two traits that will drive a woman away quick as sh*t. If it's an issue for her, let her bring it up, and if it drives her away, then she was not right for you in the first place. I honestly think that she either found someone else or just wasn't sexually satisfied with me and she had to move on. In all honesty, I think you are absolutely correct on both points!! Now, are you interested in learning exactly what behaviors you displayed that caused this and how to grow into a better man who won't make these kinds of mistakes? If so, you need to read this book: No More Mr. Nice Guy, by Robert Glover.
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