Adelaide86 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Hey all, I need some advice and hope you can help! There is this guy who has asked me out on a couple different occasions. I don't think he's super into me or anything, however, he's mentioned getting drinks and/or hanging out on a few different occasions but I wasn't really interested because he just recently went through a divorce and we didn't have much in common. Anyway, I realized in the last few weeks that I'm really interested in a close friend of his. We have a ton of similar interests and he seems like an all around nice and quality guy. Due to the fact that he's such a good guy, I wonder if it would be appropriate for me to even bother pursuing him as his loyalty is most certainly to his friend. Would the guy I like be breaking any sort of "bro code" by going out with me after I kind of shot down his friend? We all are former work acquaintances and basically hang out in the same group of friends, so I don't want to cause any unnecessary conflict. Any advice? Side question, would a 25 year old guy be weirded out if a 28 year old girl pursued them? Technically I'm only 2.5 years older than him but I've never been interested in someone younger than me so this throws me off. To give some perspective his close buddy who asked me out is 35 so it's not like he hangs out with a young group of people.
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 It sucks to say, but typically the same guys will be used to their one friend getting/attracting most of the women. So, it is probably something he has experienced before. There's nothing wrong with you asking him out, but there's a minority chance he might decline out of loyalty to his friend yes. I would. Then again, it's easy for me to say because women have never asked me out. Nevertheless, I would say maybe 25-35% of men would decline and the rest would jump right on it. Hos over bros.
Author Adelaide86 Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Thanks for the reply! If it makes any difference, the guy I'm interested in is admittedly quite nerdy, and not conventionally a "catch" so I highly doubt he gets much interest; he's been single for a few years. Both are equally physically attractive but the guy who liked me has a much better job, owns his own house, drives a nicer car etc. so to the average woman he probably seems more appealing. What do you think about the age difference?
sagetalk Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 What do you think about the age difference? Meaningless.
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