Dante311 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I should take my own advice, because I'm going through this. A friend of mine just lost her beau of 2.5 years. They were to be married. So I just ranted on Facebook to her.. I love her dearly. We were once intimate years ago... so I care about her. She's not an ex though, just a friend I'll call her Mars for the sake of this chat... I should heed my OWN advice. I was just dumped for the 11th time from a 4 year relationship. Hurray! ---------------------------- "the only way we get them back If you come back to someone maybe you have feelings for this person... why shutting them out? is to move on with our lives you have to it's not fair and it sucks it's painful EVERY ex that I did what I'm telling you to do... came back and by then, I was moved on only one didn't come back but she was ****ed up i was her rebound for 4 months i wouldn't lie to you, Mars i'm hurting too trust me but I know what has to be done I've been through it before it hurts now.. but it DOES get better They will say whatever they want to make themselves feel better it's never easy breaking up with anyone but when you least expect it... when things are better... you're over them and happy and you don't give a **** they're in someone else's arms, but they are annoyed as **** that you are in someone else's trust me i've been through this before and my ex is playing the grass is greener game so i'm miserable expecting her to come back b/c I know there's no one better out there than me b/c no one can put up with her bull**** quirks and if she does find someone who does, she has my blessing but I don't know IF I want to be her backup be the fallback guy just because she "truly" loves me after 8 years.. I had an ex come back to me b/c I was the one who got away she only realized it then and she was 27 and her "Biological clock was ticking" I told her to go **** herself. She hurt me way back when if that were 8 years ago.. I probably would've taken her back in a heart beat but today.. I'm better than that and I'm confident if Dee comes back in a month or 2 or 3.. I'll probably torture myself more until she dumps me for the 12th time but I'll keep working on me and if she comes back in a year's time, hopefully by then I'll be able to say **** it and move on without even acknowledging how she hurt me and ignore her because I'm not anyone's second best i'm too good for that and there IS someone out there who will see that it's not arrogance, it's self preservation. I'm not how someone else sees me negatively. The problem isn't with you... it's with them, and they can't focus on them + you right now, so they seek some form of a distraction, that cuts you out. They may or may not know what it is, Mars, but know that you are a wonderful, intelligent, beautiful woman and there is a man out there destined to spend the rest of his life loving you like crazy through the infinite depths of zero and beyond time and space... And you will love him the same way back he is out there he's just not this guy this guy fought with you this guy was able to run off and distract himself with another woman I would not want to be his second best be the first choice ALWAYS I love you Mars, you deserve that. ------------------------------------------------- 1
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