Asked for money for truck rental -- selfish reasons or wanted to be with me?

[headheldhigh14]

So, my bf and I went to the racetrack with his bike. It was quite expensive for him to spend the day there. He is careful with his money. I have seen him steal from Ikea. He said he purchased an item from Ikea weeks ago, and this part (he stole) was missing and he was simply getting what he should of got from them to begin with. And, he lies to his wife about how much he makes so he doesn't have to pay her more support. He is also very quick to ask me for my share of expenses if we go away together on the weekend, or do something fun. But he will pay for dinners and drinks most of the time. He has asked me to buy cases of beer for him, which I have. When we talk about moving in together, he focuses on how much money it will save, not about how wonderful it would be to spend every day together.

 

So...I am kind of feeling weird about this track day. Before going, he said I was welcome to come. He was going to ride his bike to the track. When I said I wanted to go, he suggested maybe he would rent a truck with the bike in back and us in the cab. He said so we could talk on the way up, instead of driving up separate. He said he expected me to pay for half the amount of the truck rental. Of course, I wanted to ride with him so we could chat, and agreed to the rental and paid for half the cost. I later found out he decided (before I said I was going) that he was renting the truck regardless of me going.

 

 

Do you think he was selfish and wanted me to subsidize the cost of the truck, using the "lets ride together and chat" as a bargaining chip?

 

Or did he sincerely want to be with me?

[d0nnivain]

I think all around he's selfish. He wants what he wants with no care for others: Ikea, his WIFE, you.

 

BTW, you have bigger problems then money with this guy. He's somebody else's husband. Where does that fit into the equation for you?

 

He's also prone to lying & stealing. He lies to his wife every time he's with you. Why do you trust that anything he tells you is true?

[CarrieT]

Let's see what we have here:

 

Someone who steals:

I have seen him steal from Ikea.

 

Someone who lies:

And, he lies to his wife about how much he makes so he doesn't have to pay her more support.

And are we assuming she is an Ex-Wife???

 

Someone who gambles (and doesn't sound like he does so responsibly)

So...I am kind of feeling weird about this track day.

 

 

Do you think he was selfish and wanted me to subsidize the cost of the truck, using the "lets ride together and chat" as a bargaining chip?

 

Or did he sincerely want to be with me?

The real question is: Why do you want to be with HIM? He doesn't sound like someone very worthwhile...