ComingInHot Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I was just delivered the notice of finalization. No fireworks. No drama. No nothing. Just a piece of paper saying... I thought it would be... different or feel... I don't, I can't - all I'm sorry. I just can't right now but wanted to put it out there and make it real for me CiH* 2
JustJoe Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I'm sorry for your situation, and hope that it gets better, soon. I remember when my Mom and Dad divorced (they have since remarried). My Mom was a basket case for months and Dad drank like a fish. It wasn't any picnic for us kids, either. Your feelings are all over the spectrum, now, but I am sure that things will even out, eventually . I hope you have a good support network , to help you. PM me if you want to rant. We mitten dwellers need to stick together.
Furious Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 (edited) Giving you a virtual hug CIH. You're a wonderful woman and I wish you future happiness and I'm sure you'll find it. In a way, this grief you feel may be more about what could have been that what it was. Your husband ...correction...ex-husband was a jerk. There, I said it. He didn't deserve you and I'm sorry that you were put through so much hurt. Edited November 3, 2014 by Furious Correction 2
Author ComingInHot Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Furious wrote: "more about what could have been that what it was." It is a huge part I think. Some to that I couldn't make it work. Some that he still loves and wants me so d@mn much. Some that I am hurting him. Some that I am afraid. Of what? I don't know. I have no idea why I thought that this would be no beg deal. I really thought because we get along with each other genuinely, we love our kids, and we had sex all the time until 3 or 4 weeks ago that I had streamlined a perfect transition into the next chapter. Amazing what the mind can do to protect... Thank You Just Joe* - send me a funny joke or story. I love to laugh and smile. Maybe about how you are going to change your tag line to NORTHERN Michigan??! J/K
Furious Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Furious wrote: "more about what could have been that what it was." It is a huge part I think. Some to that I couldn't make it work. Some that he still loves and wants me so d@mn much. Some that I am hurting him. Some that I am afraid. Of what? I don't know. I have no idea why I thought that this would be no beg deal. I really thought because we get along with each other genuinely, we love our kids, and we had sex all the time until 3 or 4 weeks ago that I had streamlined a perfect transition into the next chapter. Amazing what the mind can do to protect... Thank You Just Joe* - send me a funny joke or story. I love to laugh and smile. Maybe about how you are going to change your tag line to NORTHERN Michigan??! J/K I remember a post you made long ago. I don't have the exact quote, but you said that he had a temper, that he expected perfection from you. Whatever gave you the strength to go ahead with divorce is courageous and scary. You trusted yourself, and it's impossible to fix someone else. Give yourself time to mourn and be gentle with yourself. You've given so much good advice to others here and it's your time to be your own best friend. The best way to see the trees in the forest is to climb a mountain. 3
Day.One Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Not sure whether it's or . So take your pick. 1
AlwaysGrowing Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 CIH, I admire your honesty and grace. Your grace especially has served you well. You will process this new chapter just as you have the last. Hey....in the end...you ended up with the better life partner...YOU. 2
Priv Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 Little bump for an amazing woman with a new life and amazing ahead of her. 2
Majormisstep Posted November 6, 2014 Posted November 6, 2014 Maybe sometimes the former life just fades away. Mine did. I expected movie moments like "What are we doing here? This is crazy! We can't split!" but in reality it was...nothing. More of a silent transition than anything else. Maybe the drama is good? I don't know. Still lost and confused in all this. Anyway, CIH, you have a host of readers and supporters on this forum. Isn't your date soon?
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