romanticatheart Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Long story cut as short as possible: I moved to Chicago from NY back in 2012 and immediately met someone. We both agreed we didn't want a relationship, but I fell in love (and as he later told me fell for me as well ... never said love though). Anyway, 8 months later I moved back to NY, but we continued flirting, I visited, we continued being intimate, etc. This went on until May of this year when I broke things off because he said he wanted to come see me. After 2 years of this, I'd had enough. I'd expect him to call me his girlfriend or at least move forward in some sense. He said he still wasn't ready for a relationship and I decided I had to move on with my life. Fast forward to now. We haven't spoken since then. I'm visiting for Thanksgiving. He lives 2 doors down from my aunt - who I will be staying with. There is a pretty high chance I'll run into him. So here's the question - do I give him a heads up that I will be in town or just hope I don't see him? I feel like if I do run into him and I haven't told him I'm there for nearly a week, it looks really childish and petty. But I'm afraid that if I do tell him that I'll be there, it looks like I'm still pining over him.
newlyborn Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 don't tell him. i had the same question a few months ago when i was planning a move to my ex's city. the advice on here was not to tell him. i took it and moved fully and happily and quietly into his city. he found out i was there and has been emailing me, and recently asked me out to dinner. i have not decided if i will accept, and i have not responded to all of his emails. it feels better and safer for him to do the outreach. (he was the dumper, couldn't handle the distance, yada yada.) you are broken up, so you don't have to tell him anything. my two cents...
Author romanticatheart Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Thanks! I don't think I will. You're right. It would feel and be much better if he reached out.
Mi7522 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 I agree you don't own him any type of heads up. If you see acknowledge him n a friendly manner and be on your way. Take this time and enjoy it with your family don't worry about him
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