slipped halo Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Hi my boyfriend ended things a couple of weeks ago wanted space at uni as we had been together since high school. He said we could hopefully get back at some point if circumstances were right . I met another boy at a party but declined his offer of a date as I'm still in love with my ex. Anyway this guy sent me flowers and chocolates in the post and I posted a photo on Twitter ... I know my ex still follows me. Lo and behold I received a text in the night from my ex saying he could see I was fine and didn't need him anymore ?!?? Should I not read too much into this is he just playing games with me?
Seeker12 Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 He is hurting, thats his way of saying it, i think anyway.
Author slipped halo Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 He is hurting, thats his way of saying it, i think anyway. Yes but he ended things !! Is there a chance he may come back at some point do you think ...?
Seeker12 Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Maybe, dont count on it, its up to him to make that decision, he has no more obligations or commitments to you, and you dont have any to him. Give him the space that he wants, if he wants you, his heart will jolt and you will find he comes back to you. You need to focus on you, socialise, get out, feel better, im not saying get in a relationship, but just occupy yourself where and when you can. Let him do the contacting, dont ever initiate contact, take control back for yourself. 1
Author slipped halo Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Hi I've posted here before and had some really useful advice My ex told me when he left me a month ago that we could still be friends and maybe one day get back together. We are both students , first loves etc. I sent him a letter saying although I was devastated I was rebuilding my life and knew I would be special again to someone one day but was unsure if I would ever be able to erase him from my heart . My ex messaged me a few days later thanking me for the letter and some of the nicer things I had said. A few days later I uploaded a photo of flowers and chocolates a guy had sent me who I ha turned down a date with . In the early hours ( think he was drunk ) my ex messaged to say great , looks like you're managing without me fine , I stupidly responded and justified my position with this guy and said I wished the gifts had been from him but never heard back . This guy them set up a Twitter account to follow just me . Lo and behold I looked this morning and my ex is following him as well , he doesn't even know him !!! What isy ex playing at is he keeping tabs on me or could he still be interested . Am so confused
ExpatInItaly Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 You need to block/delete your ex from your social media. Bottom line is that if he wanted to be with you, he would be. But he's not. Don't let him give you breadcrumbs - you're not together anymore and need to let each other go. 3
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Your EX is immature & he's mad that you seem to be getting over him & on with your life. Cutting all contact is best. Have the new person block your EX from following him too.
Zahara Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 What isy ex playing at is he keeping tabs on me or could he still be interested . Am so confused I have a feeling you're playing games too. You posted a picture of the flowers and chocolates to provoke a reaction from your ex and you got exactly what you wanted. Is he interested? Probably not because you're still broken up. If he was, he'd be banging on your door because he can't stand the fact of another man dating you. Is he keeping tabs because while he doesn't want you, he doesn't want anyone else to have you nor does enjoy watching you move on? Most likely so. Block your ex. 1
dragonfire13 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 When a break up is still raw, it's very easy to fall into patterns of jealous of behaviour, especially with the advent of social media where so much more information is accessible. While you can get some sort of satisfaction that you're not the only one hurting with the end of the relationship, for both of you to grow and move on from the situation, it would be best to go no contact so you can both start to heal. You may be reluctant, but think about it, taking the mature approach is a form of self-improvement...which is what you should be focusing on.
tikay00 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Social media is the devil after a break up. 3
Author slipped halo Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 Hi things have got weirder since my last post but have my chance of getting back improved ? I made a comment again on social media that I Thought I was sure what I wanted but now I'm not so sure , this was directly after a bad day at uni and my career choice . Immediately my ex messaged me to ask why I continued to enjoy ripping him apart and I should consider how my words might be construed by him because I was still hurting him??? I asked if we could meet up to clarify things , we were both home with our families that weekend. We did meet up , just for a drink, got the negatives out of the way then got on really well although our relationship wasn't duscussed. He messaged me when I was getting ready for bed to say he'd really enjoyed our catch up and he'd be in touch . Can I take from that he is still interested and just needs a bit of space ?
Sweetescape910 Posted November 9, 2014 Posted November 9, 2014 Hi things have got weirder since my last post but have my chance of getting back improved ? I made a comment again on social media that I Thought I was sure what I wanted but now I'm not so sure , this was directly after a bad day at uni and my career choice . Immediately my ex messaged me to ask why I continued to enjoy ripping him apart and I should consider how my words might be construed by him because I was still hurting him??? I asked if we could meet up to clarify things , we were both home with our families that weekend. We did meet up , just for a drink, got the negatives out of the way then got on really well although our relationship wasn't duscussed. He messaged me when I was getting ready for bed to say he'd really enjoyed our catch up and he'd be in touch . Can I take from that he is still interested and just needs a bit of space ? Yes yes yes. GIVE HIM SPACE. He's interested... For now. Wait it out. Don't ask to hang, have him ask.
Author slipped halo Posted November 9, 2014 Author Posted November 9, 2014 Yes yes yes. GIVE HIM SPACE. He's interested... For now. Wait it out. Don't ask to hang, have him ask. He's got a big charity match in a few weeks ... Should I text to wish him luck or just leave it if he hasn't been in touch by then ?
Sweetescape910 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 He's got a big charity match in a few weeks ... Should I text to wish him luck or just leave it if he hasn't been in touch by then ? No. He said HED be in touch. You're walking on thin water so don't. Wait for him to be the guy and initiate the conversation when he's ready. But please, don't get ur hopes up too much.
Tinroof53 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 He won't be able to play those mind games if you stop allowing it. Why haven't you blocked him yet? And after reading further it looks like you are the one playing games... Just stop that if you don't want drama.
Author slipped halo Posted November 10, 2014 Author Posted November 10, 2014 He won't be able to play those mind games if you stop allowing it. Why haven't you blocked him yet? And after reading further it looks like you are the one playing games... Just stop that if you don't want drama. Hi I de friended him on facebook etc ... I deleted him from snapchat and he tried to add me straight away ! He must access my Twitter from just googling my user name because anyone can do that ? Just can't understand why he is putting so much energy into how bad I'm making him feel ... Plus why meet up with me ? It's all so confusing
hoping2heal Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 His ego got punched in the face, he wanted to ensure that you are still hung up on him despite other men. If he wanted to be with you, he would not have broken up. Honestly, sounds like he's young and wants to date other women but should nothing else pan out in the future, he is not opposed to getting back with you. You're going to get very hurt if you throw more stock into it than that. You're both making juvenile mistakes and its hard to be down on either one of you about it. You're young, you're going to do this crap or you probably will not learn from it. He wants to branch out and try new things and new women, and thats normal too. Its cliche but you may full well laugh very hard at the fact you two dated at all 10 years from now when you have been through more men and experiences.
travelbug1996 Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 This is the same guy that dumped you??
Author slipped halo Posted November 15, 2014 Author Posted November 15, 2014 Hi here again ... My ex has been in contact again mainly to say I keep breaking his heart when he he can see me speaking to 'admirers ' on Twitter. He is insistent on still following me. Basically another boy commenting on my tweets ? Anyway we argued over text and he had said I'm getting on with my life and leaving him behind and how depressed all this is making him and he's nothing to live for . Also he feels lost and doesn't know what to do with his life anymore ...? I offered to talk so he's ringing me this week . I just need to know if I should wait for him but he doesn't give me a straight answer ?! His last message said yes he would talk soon and 'please don't forget about me' Are we possibly a bit nearer a reconciliation ?
Author slipped halo Posted April 29, 2015 Author Posted April 29, 2015 I've posted many updates of my journey with my ex and am truly grateful of the kindness I've been shown. I've reached the end now though - found out my ex has been sleeping with his female housemate for the last year which explains why he didn't want me anymore . When I confronted him he even tried to deny it !! Had said he didn't want me back right now was too hurt but not saying never and all the while had been sleeping with another girl !! Told him I will never speak to him again and don't think he liked that . No idea why he wouldn't be up front with me though . He did say it was really hard because I was his childhood sweetheart so maybe he was struggling letting go even though he didn't want me :(. I'm truly gutted but it all makes sense. My friends reckon he'll be back again and his new relationship won't be quite as exciting now I know about it . Who knows . Thanks again guys anyway , really appreciate it
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