abraxio Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Hey all. I'm in quite a predicament and I need your help. I'm currently at university and I found a girl on my dorm floor who I caught some major feelings for but I simply cannot read her. When we first met, I was helping her roommate set up for her surprise birthday and it was my job to keep her away from her room. She would stare at me blankly and not speak for hours, no matter how much I tried to talk to her. After several days of persistently saying hello and things of that sort she finally began to open up. We would talk and even entrust some secrets with each other. But around the time I caught feelings for her, she suddenly became rather closed off to me. She still talks to me but she is very reserved and will mostly just stare at me and not say anything again, never engaging in any meaningful conversation. She would almost sound irritated at some things I say. Thing is, the second anyone else comes into the room (it's a student lounge kind of thing which is my second home, she's rarely there if I'm not) she will light up and enthusiastically converse, all the while giving me a few stares now and then. Also, if I talk to any other girl on the floor, she will try to almost push I to the conversation. I assume she doesn't like me but whenever I'm sitting in the meeting area alone (like always) and making a phone call or something, she will occasionally come and 'do work' there while staring at me and again refusing to carry on any extensive conversation. Is there something here or is she/I'm just weird?
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I didn't even bother to read most of the thread. The theme is quite familiar. One piece of advice. Never, never, never catch feelings for a woman before you know she likes you. How to do that? -Ask her out before you get a chance to fall for her. -Have multiple options and always have numerous women as possibilities. -Get used to asking out women and getting rejected. Now is the perfect age for you to learn to do things. Stick around.
Author abraxio Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 I didn't even bother to read most of the thread. The theme is quite familiar. One piece of advice. Never, never, never catch feelings for a woman before you know she likes you. How to do that? -Ask her out before you get a chance to fall for her. -Have multiple options and always have numerous women as possibilities. -Get used to asking out women and getting rejected. Now is the perfect age for you to learn to do things. Stick around. the thing is I know more or less if I'm going to fall for someone. She came as a complete surprise. As for the options thing, I certainly have a few but at the moment it doesn't matter since all I want is her currently. As for rejection, it's the only answer I know which is why I haven't asked her yet. I can only be told no so many times before I get tired of asking 1
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 As for the options thing, I certainly have a few but at the moment it doesn't matter since all I want is her currently. That is the rut you need to get out of. If she don't want you, you don't want her. End of story. You may need to learn the hard way, like the rest of us. But I'm trying to spare you.
Author abraxio Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 That is the rut you need to get out of. If she don't want you, you don't want her. End of story. You may need to learn the hard way, like the rest of us. But I'm trying to spare you. But is it a given that she doesn't want me? Everyone notices that she acts weird to me and while she's kind of reserved, she always comes back for some reason
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 But is it a given that she doesn't want me? Everyone notices that she acts weird to me and while she's kind of reserved, she always comes back for some reason No, but you say you caught feelings for her before you have your answer. That tells me you are in a very bad place, my friend. Just ask her out first and then if she rejects you, move on.
Assasda Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 This girl is downright rude to you. You still come back to her for more Now she knows that you have no dignity, so she treats you like crap. Move on, leave this girl alone. She is not into you at all. I'd stop talking to her immediately
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