BUTTERFLY890 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 So I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, we've had our ups and downs. He is a really good guy and I log whim , and he's really in love with me. So our main problems has always come down to him feeling like I don't love him enough and i am not reassuring him enough in our relationship. I know I'm not the perfect girlfriend but things went down hill and he ended up making out with some other girl and some slight rubbing (if you get what I mean). I broke up with him then we got back together. We have been good lately, i just can't help but feel that he really is not the "one". Although I am in a point in my life that I am not looking for that one special guy yet. I just graduated college and trying to figure things out. He is the sweetest and nicest guy I've ever met. He does make me happy but I feel like their is a disconnect on some level. We are compatible and have similar goals and interests. We get along great. Im so confused on what to do, because on some level I owner whats wrong with me how can I not appreciate such an amazing guy. We are planning to head out to his home state for the holidays but i don't want to go if I plan to break up with him we will be purchasing our tickets really soon. I feel bad. I question myself am I a terrible person for going out with him when I know he will not be the one. As a side note I'm his first. and the first time he's really fell in love.
crackerjax9 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I stopped reading this when you said he cheated on you. Honey, "the one" will not be cheating on you. End it. Move on. 2
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 So I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months, we've had our ups and downs. He is a really good guy and I log whim , and he's really in love with me. So our main problems has always come down to him feeling like I don't love him enough and i am not reassuring him enough in our relationship. I know I'm not the perfect girlfriend but things went down hill and he ended up making out with some other girl and some slight rubbing (if you get what I mean). I broke up with him then we got back together. We have been good lately, i just can't help but feel that he really is not the "one". Although I am in a point in my life that I am not looking for that one special guy yet. I just graduated college and trying to figure things out. He is the sweetest and nicest guy I've ever met. He does make me happy but I feel like their is a disconnect on some level. We are compatible and have similar goals and interests. We get along great. Im so confused on what to do, because on some level I owner whats wrong with me how can I not appreciate such an amazing guy. We are planning to head out to his home state for the holidays but i don't want to go if I plan to break up with him we will be purchasing our tickets really soon. I feel bad. I question myself am I a terrible person for going out with him when I know he will not be the one. As a side note I'm his first. and the first time he's really fell in love. You aren't in love, he is. You know he's not the one. He cheated on you. You know you aren't ready to settle down. All of these by themselves are legitimate reasons to break it off. I know he's a wonderful, amazing, fantastic guy, but that doesn't mean he's a wonderful, amazing, fantastic guy for you. You absolutely should do this now before you start buying tickets and making long-term plans. I've been in your shoes and I can promise you that disconnect never goes away. If any of it doesn't feel right, it's not right. Both of you need to be free to be with someone who's completely in love and committed.
J21 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Stopped reading after the he made out with another girl part. He's not the one. Move on.
Assasda Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 This guy sounds like he has self-esteem problems. He alsoo sounds like he's doormat for you. Do both of yourselves a favor and break it off with him
Thegreatestthing Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 He feels insecure because he can sense that you don't feel he is the "one" ask yourself when you hear songs on the radio do they make you think of him this is how you will know.
Tayken Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I stopped reading this when you said he cheated on you. Honey, "the one" will not be cheating on you. End it. Move on. Amen to that...male or female. However, some people are a sucker for pain and tend to overlook the obviously, thinking they can change that person. If s/he didn't respect you enough not to cheat on you in the 1st place, what makes you think they won't do it again? You obviously aren't worth anything to them if they had to cheat on you. "The one" will respect you, care for you, and only have eyes for you, and want to only bang you day and night. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 He isn't all that in love with you if he cheated on you, OP. You already know he's not the right person for you. His infidelity should have been enough evidence of that.
mammasita Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Ups, downs, cheating, insecurity, a breakup and a reconciliation.....all in 9 months? I'm gonna go out on a limb and say he is definitely NOT the one.
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