hopelessromantic1994 Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 (edited) I was dating this guy for two years. I started my senior year in high school and we made it through my freshman year in college. However, the last week of my freshman year he said that he couldn't do this anymore because he wanted someone that could be with him all the time because he had just bought a house of his own. Mind you there was a very large section of time before hand, probably about a month where we were fighting and arguing and he said that one weekend we spent together he just knew that it wasn't fair for us. He didn't like me going to school so far away. He refused to meet up and talk with me when I did get home for summer break. I finally got him too and he was extremely emotional about it. I could tell it was killing him to do this. I wrote him a letter because I knew I wouldn't have gotten everything out that I wanted too. About a month passed, nothing from him. I got sick of not sleeping and not talking to him so I decided to call him really late one night and left him a message explaining that I needed him, basically begging for him back. He never responded to me. Then he proceeded to show up at a party he knew I was going to be at, didn't say anything to me just stared at me. Then I saw him quite a few times after that and of course I texted him asking for him to talk to me, spilling my heart out. No response. Then one day I was at a gas station and he completely avoided me. I decided to transfer to a closer school (not because of him, my academic choice changed as well as sport) and I love my new school right now. But at the time I texted him asking if we could meet up and talk because I am going to be home now and he can have everything he wanted before. No response. After all of that I decided to give up. Point taken. I know he hates me, he admitted that. I don't know what I did wrong. Then I found out he was hanging out with this girl he contacted right after we broke up. I saw them together at the local fair and it killed me. Then I found out she went back to her old boyfriend. I deleted him off facebook but still look, I see him around town all the time and I just dont know what else to do. Its been six months. I truly feel so strong for him and its been six months. I'm so sad all the time and not myself. I pray and pray for once for something to go right in my life and it never happens, I'm losing faith. I believe in fate, but how can I remain believing in fate when I truly feel like he is my soulmate? I've seen other people since but I can't be with them because it isn't fair that I'm still this stuck on my ex. How do I move on from someone that we planned out life out together? I am tired of hearing to give it time and that I'm young and there are other men out there. I know that. But I'm mature for my age and know what I want out of life. I want him. I dont know what else I can do. Please, someone somewhere please help me. I am desperate for advice or guidance or anything. I've prayed and prayed and tried to remain hopeful. But I physically can't be without him. Edited October 28, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
d0nnivain Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 Your heart is broken. But you have to give up hope of a reconciliation in order to give your heart time to heal. You have to remind yourself that this relationship -- as great as it may have been -- is over. Now it's time to move forward. Have you put all reminders of him away? Every photo, every stuffed animal, the ticket stubs from things you attended together . . . all boxed up & gone. Have you blocked him from all social media -- FB, Twitter, SnapChat, Instagram, e-mail, your cell phone . . . . Everything? Now go out there & get busy. Join a club at school. Make new friends. Cut your hair. 1
walkingonair Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 First of all DONT INITIATE CONTACT ANYMORE!If a person broke up with you they don't want to talk to you so why contact them?!He needs to miss you and he can't because you kept trying to get him back.I believe he will be back if he doesn't hear from you for a few weeks straight.Second of all,relationships and break ups happen for a reason.If he is ment to be in your life,he will come back!If not,then he wasn't ment to be in your life!We have to go through break ups!That's how we change and grow!Everything happens for a reason.And if this guy is truly ment to be in your life long term,he will come back!and this time apart is a chance for you and him to change,learn and grow and get back together when you guys are ready.So don't stress too much about this!
Author hopelessromantic1994 Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 I really like your advice..I just don't know where to even start you know what I mean? He was everything and now six months later he hates me. I should be the one to hate him. Its been close to three months we haven't spoken...
Chatmonkey Posted October 28, 2014 Posted October 28, 2014 I really like your advice..I just don't know where to even start you know what I mean? He was everything and now six months later he hates me. I should be the one to hate him. Its been close to three months we haven't spoken... You impress me. Im struggling to even string a few days of NC together...
Author hopelessromantic1994 Posted October 28, 2014 Author Posted October 28, 2014 Its extremely difficult. I just want to text and call and call some more until he finally listens. But I know he doesn't care and won't listen. I just don't understand how someone can go from wanting every part of you for the rest of their life to treating me the way he is.
Author hopelessromantic1994 Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Hey ya'll. So my ex boyfriend and I broke up about six months ago. About three months ago he started talking to this girl who was together to someone else for about four years and at one point was engaged to him. She moved in with him and didn't have a place to stay because she left her parents house. The her and her fiancee went wrong and she just recently moved in with my ex boyfriend, after THREE MONTHS OF TALKING. Any advice on this would be great, she had no other place to go so its just all so confusing as to what the hell is going on. Does anyone else think its pathetic that he wanted her to move in with him after only talking for three months?
mammasita Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 You guys are broken up, so he can do whatever he wants. Um, What advice are you looking for exactly? Well yeah, Sounds like a hot mess waiting to happen, but more importantly disconnect yourself from stalking/gathering info about him. It won't do you any good.
Dopefish333 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I wouldn't even want to hear that information. Where did you hear it? Sadly there's nothing you can do about it, but too me he Is moving a little too fast, but we don't know everything.
MrBossMan Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I agree with the other posters. You need to stop stalking him. It's over. You need to let go for your own well-being. You don't need him to be part of your life. You're enough. You need to heal and better yourself so that you'll be ready when Mr. Right comes along. 1
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