lilah Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 My husband and I were married for 16 years, separated and divorced...I moved out for 5 months, then we ended up reconciling after the divorce was final. We have since remarried. During the time we were broken up he dated a woman for 1 month. She was a rebound for him, he wasn't looking for a serious relationship but somehow she didn't understand that and basically proposed to him on the second date. She also wanted to legally adopt my children. They had only known each other for a few days. I don't know why he didn't run away screaming when that happened but I digress. It's been 6 months since they broke up and she's still trying to contact him via text message and email. Every couple of weeks she'll send him a message trying to get him to talk to her. Her messages are benign, just saying "Hey, xxxx, how have you been?". He does not respond. My problem is that I don't know if she's crazy and going to turn into a stalker or not. She was very possessive and controlling while they dated, trying to tell him that he couldn't even talk to the next door neighbor because she was a pretty girl. My husband ended it with her after a month and she tried to argue with him about not breaking up. She said "that's just what people do, they fight and break up and get back together". She threw a fit about my husband and I spending time together for our sons birthday party because she was not invited....very very insecure saying that it was inappropriate for us to spend time together. This woman has had 2 restraining orders put against her in the last 4 years. I don't know the details behind them but I can see why if this is what she does. Am I wrong to be concerned about this woman hanging on to whatever it is she thinks she's hanging on to. She knows that my husband and I live together, not sure if she figured out we got back together, although I'm pretty sure she does because she texted him when I moved back in, she saw my moving truck in front of his house and texted him "You took her back after everything you said you went through with her???? I hope she cheats on you, blah blah blah." Very hateful. Then on the 2 month "anniversary" of their breakup she texts him again saying "It's been 2 months since we broke up and you said we could be friends! Your integrity as a man has been shot to hell. I guess you aren't a man of your word!!!!" They dated for one month. We were married for 16 years and he wasn't even legally divorced yet when they started dating. My husband has tried blocking her phone number through the cell phone carrier and also using several different apps and they don't work, her picture texts still get through. He's blocked 2 of her email addresses so far. My husband just laughs it off, he doesn't think she's dangerous or will try to come after us. He thinks she's just doing it to make me jealous (which I'm not, I'm concerned about her turning into a stalker and coming after my family). Am I over reacting? It's been 6 months since they broke up, why is she STILL persisting with this ridiculous childish behavior? She even sent me a message on Facebook when they first broke up saying she wanted to talk to me "woman to woman". I did not respond. I've asked my husband to change his phone number and he said he would. I'm in counceling and my councelor said he shouldn't have to do that. That I'm giving her too much power by reacting to her in any way. Am I overreacting? Should I just blow this off as if she's just trying to interfere in my relationship by irritating me? If I knew for sure she wasn't dangerous I would be laughing at how juvenile her behavior is. But, my husband dated her twice during the time they were broken up, the first time only lasted a week and then they broke up for 3 months. She bombarded him with messages on Facebook during that time but he ignored them all for 3 months.....until she started asking him for advise about trying to get child support from her ex. I'm wondering what she's going to do now, once she realizes that she isn't going to be able to break us up and he will never speak to her again.
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