Adferger1 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Hi girls, this is a question for you. After my ex broke it up with me, she has put her personal life to the extreme. Not only does she have school for 35 hours a week, + homework, but she has also taken up not 1 but 2 jobs. This gives her 35 hours of work evey week, + whatever ekstra shifts she can get. She also hits the gym for at least 1.5 hour every day... IF she finally does have one evening to herself she makes sure to have plans with friends to go out and have fun... It seems to me like she is trying to keep herself as busy and stressed as possible to hide any kind of feelings she have due to the breakup... Have any of you girls done the same to move on from a break up? And if so, here is the big question: Do you really remove the bad feelings from the break up, or will they hit you at a later date?
Veeah Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I'm a girl and I don't do that. Complete opposite actually. Your ex sounds like one of my ex boyfriends. He works a lot while going to school and when he has free time he would go out and do whatever it takes to avoid alone time, which I think contributes to him moving on much easier than I did after our breakup. I'll tell you one thing though, if she really loves you, it will hit her sooner or later. My ex kept busy but he eventually came back apologizing for everything, how he treated me, etc. OR, even if she doesn't really love you, she still may come back if her relationships with other guys don't work out.
loversquarrel Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 If you don't allow yourself time to grieve and constantly try to forget things the feelings will hit. It is the people that seemingly get over things easily that really don't...they carry that baggage with them wherever they go, especially if they are the dumpee.
Author Adferger1 Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 So what you guys are saying is that some people can do this, and it may work short term. But if she really was as much in love with me as I know she was it will hit her sooner or later?
loversquarrel Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 She is keeping insanely busy to help put you and the breakup out of her mind. This may work for her in getting over it, however she will most likely end up bringing the same problems of old relationships with her into new relationships. Keeping busy helps you get through a break up but depending on how close the two of you were, there may be future feelings of unresolved issues.
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