lawbstar Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 My ex broke up with me about two weeks ago now. Things were not messy, and I believe we are on good terms. I know that this could be bull****, but she told me that she still loves me, that this may not be the end, that she hopes that I can forgive her one day, that we should get coffee sometime, and that I can still call her if I just need someone to talk to. I just want to hear people's opinions. Is it ever okay to call your ex?
mammasita Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Not when you still have feelings and believe there is hope. All dumpers say the same things in some form, it doesn't make it true.....it just makes it easier for them to dump us. 1
Arieswoman Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 lawbstar, Is it ever okay to call your ex? Not unless you want to delay your own healing. It doesn't help, it gives you a temporary "fix", and then you plummet down again. It also feeds their ego. Please don't do it. Good luck x
scubasteve Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Don't give into their needs of a damn ego boost
DirtyHairy Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 She just said those things to let you down easy. She probably didn't want to hurt you more and tell you she doesn't love you anymore so she is just trying to be nice. I would avoid talking to her on the phone and even over text. Just gotta be brave and let life takes its course. Its tough but it will pay off in the end you'll see.
Arient Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 My ex broke up with me about two weeks ago now. Things were not messy, and I believe we are on good terms. I know that this could be bull****, but she told me that she still loves me, that this may not be the end, that she hopes that I can forgive her one day, that we should get coffee sometime, and that I can still call her if I just need someone to talk to. I just want to hear people's opinions. Is it ever okay to call your ex? Gosh, the same things my ex told me. We also ended in 'good terms', and that we can be 'friends', that we should reach out whenever possible, that he still loves me, blah blah blah. Seriously, NEVER call your ex until you're 100% sure that you're over her. Remember, why should one leave someone they love? Just the fact that they want to leave means that they no longer deserve our love, or they even don't want it anymore. They chose to end the relationship, so they no longer want to walk together with us in our life, so why they still want us to be in their lives in some forms? To feel less guilty, to feel secure, and whatever bulls**t that we should not care about. Do not call her. Period!
d0nnivain Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 There are times when it is OK to call but not 2 weeks after a break up on some pre-text of being friends. Table that urge for a year or two.
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