robert93 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 My full story is voer here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/495856-ex-girlfriend-wants-space-have-fun One and a half months passed since the breakup and last week she came to my place to fix her laptop.She asked me when I leave to Italy and then she asked if she can come with me.I was confused and didn't answer.She assumed I don't want her Aanymore.Funny thing is that she told her mother that she is infact going to leave with me to Italy and that this is what she wants now.It's confusing and also FUNNY.I can't understand how she can make things to feel better she realised her mistakes (leaving me for anotehr guy) and now she has the guts to ask me to take her back to Italy with me?? Funny thing I played by her rules so after that I asked her if she really wanted to come with me she said YES!.But she needs to think about it.I was like yeah sure I am only leaving in 2 weeks or less so I am here.After that she kept telling her mother that she is going with me.Today I asked her what she decided to do and again she was lying and she was with that guy at her cousing birthday party.She even told her mother that she told that guy that she is going to leave with me.Wow she is seriously leaving with me but I'm the only one that doesn't know that ) I told her if she wants to come with me it will be hard and she needs to accept her mistakes and LEARN from them.She said that again I am the problem because I still keep bringing in old things and that I interogate her ).So from her ponint of view she never did something wrong I guess all this is normal to her.Anyway tomorow I will get my money and I will start to prepare for the ride and she told me that tomorow she will give me an exact answer.I don't think that it will work ever agin and I see that she thinks that everything she has done it was a normal thing to do.But the question is WHY NOW? What is her motives to want to come with me to Italy? What changed her to want to be with me again and why?
riokid180 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 My full story is voer here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/495856-ex-girlfriend-wants-space-have-fun One and a half months passed since the breakup and last week she came to my place to fix her laptop.She asked me when I leave to Italy and then she asked if she can come with me.I was confused and didn't answer.She assumed I don't want her Aanymore.Funny thing is that she told her mother that she is infact going to leave with me to Italy and that this is what she wants now.It's confusing and also FUNNY.I can't understand how she can make things to feel better she realised her mistakes (leaving me for anotehr guy) and now she has the guts to ask me to take her back to Italy with me?? Funny thing I played by her rules so after that I asked her if she really wanted to come with me she said YES!.But she needs to think about it.I was like yeah sure I am only leaving in 2 weeks or less so I am here.After that she kept telling her mother that she is going with me.Today I asked her what she decided to do and again she was lying and she was with that guy at her cousing birthday party.She even told her mother that she told that guy that she is going to leave with me.Wow she is seriously leaving with me but I'm the only one that doesn't know that ) I told her if she wants to come with me it will be hard and she needs to accept her mistakes and LEARN from them.She said that again I am the problem because I still keep bringing in old things and that I interogate her ).So from her ponint of view she never did something wrong I guess all this is normal to her.Anyway tomorow I will get my money and I will start to prepare for the ride and she told me that tomorow she will give me an exact answer.I don't think that it will work ever agin and I see that she thinks that everything she has done it was a normal thing to do.But the question is WHY NOW? What is her motives to want to come with me to Italy? What changed her to want to be with me again and why? Dont do it bro
SoThatHappened Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I could start a list of what's wrong with her, but I really need you to think about what the heck is wrong with you. Her list may be longer, but your starts and ends with: WTF is wrong with you to even allow yourself to entertain someone like her? You seriously need to work on the reasons why you would allow her to do what she's doing, and why you would allow yourself to be in your position. You need a huge wake-up call.
Author robert93 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 Yeah I know but I erally want to figure out the reason why she wants back now.one onth ago we called it quits and I was ok with it and then out of the blue she asked me to take her with me.I don't think she knows the consequences of her decisions and actions.You can't jump from one to another so quickly and I know that and I think she knows it a lil bit too.But seriously how can she not see that her actions have big consequences for her her family and also me.I can't find a reason for her to do this now yeah she tells me that she feels something for me but I don't buy that.
SoThatHappened Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Nothing any of us say is going to truly resonate with you. The fact that you're knowingly allowing this behavior is telling enough. My advice is to run for the hills. Don't look back. Work on why you allowed this crap in the first place. But, since I know you're not going to take that advice, we'll talk again soon.
mr_dave Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 My full story is voer here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/495856-ex-girlfriend-wants-space-have-fun One and a half months passed since the breakup and last week she came to my place to fix her laptop.She asked me when I leave to Italy and then she asked if she can come with me.I was confused and didn't answer.She assumed I don't want her Aanymore.Funny thing is that she told her mother that she is infact going to leave with me to Italy and that this is what she wants now.It's confusing and also FUNNY.I can't understand how she can make things to feel better she realised her mistakes (leaving me for anotehr guy) and now she has the guts to ask me to take her back to Italy with me?? Funny thing I played by her rules so after that I asked her if she really wanted to come with me she said YES!.But she needs to think about it.I was like yeah sure I am only leaving in 2 weeks or less so I am here.After that she kept telling her mother that she is going with me.Today I asked her what she decided to do and again she was lying and she was with that guy at her cousing birthday party.She even told her mother that she told that guy that she is going to leave with me.Wow she is seriously leaving with me but I'm the only one that doesn't know that ) I told her if she wants to come with me it will be hard and she needs to accept her mistakes and LEARN from them.She said that again I am the problem because I still keep bringing in old things and that I interogate her ).So from her ponint of view she never did something wrong I guess all this is normal to her.Anyway tomorow I will get my money and I will start to prepare for the ride and she told me that tomorow she will give me an exact answer.I don't think that it will work ever agin and I see that she thinks that everything she has done it was a normal thing to do.But the question is WHY NOW? What is her motives to want to come with me to Italy? What changed her to want to be with me again and why? For heaven's sake man, go to Italy and don't take her with you! She left you so she could have fun with someone else, how will you feel knowing you're her second choice? In Italy beautiful girls grow on trees, forget about your ex - you deserve someone who will treat you better.
LoveIsMyReligion Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 This guy is a moron - I could see why she would go with another guy.
Author robert93 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 I am trying to let go I was fine 2 weeks ago but she said those things and now I am confused again.I don't rust her anymore because of all the lies but now she made me curious because I don't know why she wants to come with me.Tomorow I will get my money so next week I am leaving and I will be better there because I will go NC for good.I hope I will find out the true reason she wanted to come someday.
tikay00 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 This girl is toxic. Do you really want to be with her? I know you do, otherwise you wouldn't have made this thread. DON'T DO IT. You're gonna cry on the plane ride home from Italy, after she tells you it was only a "friends trip".
Author robert93 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 I don't want to take her there I just don't know why she wants to come.That's the thing that is bugging me.She left ok we talked and ended it so I was starting to feel better but now she got me confused again.She lied a lot to me so taking her back it's not an option and I can't see a healthy relationship with her.She has to grow up and I want to make her realise that her actions have reactions and that she needs to realise her mistakes and to learn from them.So I am here because I am confused but not about taking her with me or not but about what changed her mind to want to come with me and to work things out with me.I know I did a mistake by letting her contact me again and I am now dealing with that
lemonsugar Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I don't want to take her there I just don't know why she wants to come.That's the thing that is bugging me.She left ok we talked and ended it so I was starting to feel better but now she got me confused again.She lied a lot to me so taking her back it's not an option and I can't see a healthy relationship with her.She has to grow up and I want to make her realise that her actions have reactions and that she needs to realise her mistakes and to learn from them.So I am here because I am confused but not about taking her with me or not but about what changed her mind to want to come with me and to work things out with me.I know I did a mistake by letting her contact me again and I am now dealing with that Tell her to jog on seriously you both sound like you have a lot of maturing to do. Block her and move on take it as a life lesson.
Author robert93 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 Yes but at least I am willing to learn from my mistakes anyway this was a life lesson indeed..and a good one..I will enter NC and I will tell her to not call me after I leave
lemonsugar Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Yes but at least I am willing to learn from my mistakes anyway this was a life lesson indeed..and a good one..I will enter NC and I will tell her to not call me after I leave Do not tell her not to call. Just disappear she doesnt care about how you feel so just dont return calls etc. You sound like you really want to contact her! For your sake i wouldnt
Author robert93 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 Yes I will just dissapear and I hope I will recover fast.I went trough hell this 2 months and I realised that you can change when you know this is the only thing left to do...
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