Augman Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 (edited) Hi all, this will be nice and short, and up for debate. My girl has always called me love, babe, baby, etc... I loved it, made me feel special, but i recently find her using these same names for most if her friends, even babe, and even with guy friends. Sometimes it really bugs me because i feel thise names should be exclusive to me. Am i Weird? Or is it normal for that to get on my nerves? I give her a little stern look of disaproval when it happens and she said shell work on it but does it constantly still. Sorry for weird typos, typing on my ipad.. Edited November 2, 2014 by Augman
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Hi all, this will be nice and short, and up for debate. My girl has always called my love, babe, baby, etc... I loved it, made me feel special, but i recently find her using these same names for most if her friends, even babe, and even with guy friends. Sometimes it really bugs me because i feel thise names should be exclusive to me. Am i Weird? Or is it normal for that to get on my nerves? I give her a little stern look of disaproval when it happens and she said shell work on it but does it constantly still. Sorry for weird typos, typing on my ipad.. Ya I guess it would be disappointing, BUT it's her personality. Babe, hun, sweetie are terms of endearment, not always or romantic nature. Some very loving people just are more openly expressive than others, and your GF just happens to be one of them. Telling her to stop would mean you want to change who she is, and that can't be right. It's up to you how you want to deal with it. Me it would depend. If I really cared about them, I would accept it and understand that it's just the way they are. 1
smackie9 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 You both sound young, so it's a learning process to set up boundaries, and reveal expectations, work through on what is appropriate behavior and what is not. So don't be hard on her or you will lose her.
GemmaUK Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Are you serious? If you want a 'name' that is special to you tell her. To be jealous if she is friendly with others is bizarre. It's lovely that she has friends she loves.
angel.eyes Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 OP, how old are you? No, it shouldn't bother you. Some people use generic terms like "babe" and "sweetie" with everyone, even random strangers. There are myriad ways to show that someone is special to you. Is she kissing everyone on the lips? Making the same effort that she does with you? Learn to appreciate the ways in which a person does show that you're special rather than getting bent out of shape over some particular action that isn't done exactly to your specifications. If you're don't get the hang of this, you're going to drive away great partners and ruin perfectly good relationships.
IronZ Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 It would bother me on context alone. If she was saying "babe" or "baby" or "sweetie" or something to a guy to flirt with him? Big red flags. If she just spoke like that to everyone with no other intentions? Then it's fine. I guess some people are like that.
veggirl Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 People who call everyone they know a generic "honey" "babe" "sweetie" or whatever bug me for some reason. It just seems so fakey. I'd be pissed if my bf was calling other girls babe! Just tell her it makes you feel uncomfortable when she calls other guys pet names.
Chemist Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I am not one for being spiteful, but drop a babe to one of your girlfriends in front of her Usually it will help her understand your point of view. I haven't dated one girl that would let that slide.
Assasda Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I think its pretty immature of you OP. You get jealous for things like that. Seems like a weirdly needy trait. Work on your self esteem OP. Other people shouldnt affect how you feel about yourself
Author Augman Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Thank you for your responses everyone, this is all quite helpful. To reply to a few things that were said, i am a freshman in college so yes, i'm rather young. I do not ,by any means, get bent out of shape about this: the very most I've done (like i said before) is look at her, but she knows that im uncomfortable with it, and shes working on it, so i suppose ill try not to let it bother me.. perhaps it bothers me a little more than it should, but i also dont think my discomfot is terribly unreasonable. Oh, i openly admit to being needy. I crave maximum exclusivity, but i consider myself to have at least moderate self esteem.. Im friggin awesome! And To be fair, my gf is quite needy herself, and we keep eachother reletively worry-free. It works out pretty well imo.
smackie9 Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Well if she is needy then that would explain everything....she needs the attention and wants to feel wanted by everyone, which is a common trait in most young girls. 1
Author Augman Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Well if she is needy then that would explain everything....she needs the attention and wants to feel wanted by everyone, which is a common trait in most young girls. Ive figured out that much by now.. That, and her past with abandonment has created her want for love and attention. Im sure we will both get better with time, and at least it's mutual between us, so we get to satisfy eachothers needs accordingly. Ive had enough one-sidedness.
Author Augman Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 THIS. Don't get worried. You simply do the same and live your life like that. Call all your friends babe and what not. Don't do it to spite her. Do it for yourself. You are right, and I did that ONCE, and to a guy friend, not even a lady friend. She immediately said something about it...
slizl Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 Augman, Don't listen to these other posters. My girlfriends and I pet name for each other is "baby." If I heard her call another man "baby, " I would be upset. Maybe you guys can think of a word that is exclusive to you as a couple?
Thegreatestthing Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 She can be affectionate with people besides you,come up with a nickname she uses solely for you.Hi all, this will be nice and short, and up for debate. My girl has always called me love, babe, baby, etc... I loved it, made me feel special, but i recently find her using these same names for most if her friends, even babe, and even with guy friends. Sometimes it really bugs me because i feel thise names should be exclusive to me. Am i Weird? Or is it normal for that to get on my nerves? I give her a little stern look of disaproval when it happens and she said shell work on it but does it constantly still. Sorry for weird typos, typing on my ipad..
Author Augman Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 Augman, Don't listen to these other posters. My girlfriends and I pet name for each other is "baby." If I heard her call another man "baby, " I would be upset. Maybe you guys can think of a word that is exclusive to you as a couple? I would think so, and good idea. Thank you!
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