oberkeat Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 This will sound very insecure, but I wonder: am I simply too boring to attract a girlfriend? My week pretty much consists of these activities: work 40 hours (occasional business trips), going to the gym every day, swimming a few times a week, night classes once a week, going to the movies (usually alone, sometimes with a friend), reading. I spend a lot of time on school projects. That's pretty much it. I think a guy needs to have a life that a woman would actually want to be a part of, but I haven't got too much exciting going on. What do you think? Am I too boring?
DQBlizzard Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 This will sound very insecure, but I wonder: am I simply too boring to attract a girlfriend? My week pretty much consists of these activities: work 40 hours (occasional business trips), going to the gym every day, swimming a few times a week, night classes once a week, going to the movies (usually alone, sometimes with a friend), reading. I spend a lot of time on school projects. That's pretty much it. I think a guy needs to have a life that a woman would actually want to be a part of, but I haven't got too much exciting going on. What do you think? Am I too boring? I can't answer that for you, but your attitude is definitely a turn off. Women can smell desperation a mile away.
Dallers Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 (edited) This will sound very insecure, but I wonder: am I simply too boring to attract a girlfriend? My week pretty much consists of these activities: work 40 hours (occasional business trips), going to the gym every day, swimming a few times a week, night classes once a week, going to the movies (usually alone, sometimes with a friend), reading. I spend a lot of time on school projects. That's pretty much it. I think a guy needs to have a life that a woman would actually want to be a part of, but I haven't got too much exciting going on. What do you think? Am I too boring? Nope. You are the reason why you do not have a girlfriend. It is insecure to think this way and simply you think you are not good enough for a woman. You will not accept this because you are using your busy life as the excuse and telling yourself this is the reason why you do not have a girlfriend to make yourself feel better. A. Make yourself strong enough to love you before trying to love someone else and make your life so good that you never NEED a woman. B. Make yourself believe that you are the prize and that women want you. This shows in the way you act and your body language. C. Build your self confidence. Do things you never do. Get out of your comfort zone. Improve yourself - Look, style, and intelligence. D. Read and research none stop. Understanding women is the best way to getting a woman. Read books. Marni Kinrys books helped me at the beginning. E. Get on Online Dating. Edited November 2, 2014 by Dallers
NGC1300 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I'm in the same boat. All I do is work, work out (at home), surf the web, and play video games. I also have a motorcycle, but do all my riding ALONE. I don't care what anyone says, no girl will stay with me long because my lifestyle is too boring. I don't even have friends.
gaius Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 It's more about the time you spend with each other than anything else. You could have the most boring life ever but if you can show her a good time when you're together then she'll be happy. You don't even have the most boring life. Should have plenty of interesting travel stories from those business trips at least. Weird co-workers, what you thought of the latest movie you saw, etc.
GG3 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I don't think so at all. Sounds like my life. I have dated some guys who have all these passions and interests on top of their job and then they can't make time to be in a relationship. I think you have just enough...just gotta find the girl.
Author oberkeat Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 Nah you sound perfect to me. Thanks for saying so. Nope. You are the reason why you do not have a girlfriend. It is insecure to think this way and simply you think you are not good enough for a woman. You will not accept this because you are using your busy life as the excuse and telling yourself this is the reason why you do not have a girlfriend to make yourself feel better. A. Make yourself strong enough to love you before trying to love someone else and make your life so good that you never NEED a woman. B. Make yourself believe that you are the prize and that women want you. This shows in the way you act and your body language. C. Build your self confidence. Do things you never do. Get out of your comfort zone. Improve yourself - Look, style, and intelligence. D. Read and research none stop. Understanding women is the best way to getting a woman. Read books. Marni Kinrys books helped me at the beginning. E. Get on Online Dating. Appreciate the perspective. I'll look into the book recommendations. I do not like online dating, however. It's more about the time you spend with each other than anything else. You could have the most boring life ever but if you can show her a good time when you're together then she'll be happy. You don't even have the most boring life. Should have plenty of interesting travel stories from those business trips at least. Weird co-workers, what you thought of the latest movie you saw, etc. Thanks, makes me feel a little better. I don't think so at all. Sounds like my life. I have dated some guys who have all these passions and interests on top of their job and then they can't make time to be in a relationship. I think you have just enough...just gotta find the girl. Thanks. Time will tell, I suppose.
Emilia Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 This will sound very insecure, but I wonder: am I simply too boring to attract a girlfriend? My week pretty much consists of these activities: work 40 hours (occasional business trips), going to the gym every day, swimming a few times a week, night classes once a week, going to the movies (usually alone, sometimes with a friend), reading. I spend a lot of time on school projects. That's pretty much it. I think a guy needs to have a life that a woman would actually want to be a part of, but I haven't got too much exciting going on. What do you think? Am I too boring? As long as you can hold a conversation about your hobbies with like minded people and have an interest in what goes on around you, I think you are probably fine.
mr_dave Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I'm in a similar position to you, I work 55+ hour weeks, play soccer, go to the gym, meet 1-2 friends to watch a game/play pool once a week, play video games, watch TV/films and that's about it. I have the same feelings also from time to time - that I'm perhaps too boring for a GF. Facebook doesn't exactly help, but what you have to bear in mind is that people only post the 'highlights' of what goes on in their lives. A quick log on to a dating site and you'll see lots of women who list cocktails and socialising as primary hobbies! Now that is boring. You don't have anything to worry about really.. Bear in mind that if you were to meet a girl and start dating, you would ( I hope) be taking her out for meals, going to the cinema, travelling to new places together etc, in addition to all the activities you listed previously. That sounds like quite an active and interesting life to be fair. 2
elseaacych Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Day to day living is boring. Life is unexpected fleeting moments of joy that happen at happens from time to time to shake up your day to day living. It is possible not to be bored with day to day living if you take great enjoyment from the things you do day to day. I'd tell you my day to day/weekly schedule, and you'd agree it's a grind. I am somewhat satisfied with it though, and would happily welcome a significant other along for a ride. What gets problematic is when you experience a drop in satisfaction in your feelings toward your life, and then you look for validation from others. It's an easy fix though, do something that gives you life. 2
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