tikay00 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 for me, definitely. if u dumped a girl and want her back, do so before she reaches enlightenment :p how fast it takes her to reach enlightenment depends on various factors such as the strength of her social support (family, gfs), if there's a good guy around her, if she is an introvert/extrovert etc. She said "when we both fully heal, I hope we can be friends in the future", because I told her we can't be friends. She said she doesn't want us to hate each other, ever, and that she needs me to at least be in her life. I'm gonna leave her be, and if fates decides that we can be friends after we're both healed, then such is life. I hope we can be.
Author i c e queen Posted November 4, 2014 Author Posted November 4, 2014 She said "when we both fully heal, I hope we can be friends in the future", because I told her we can't be friends. She said she doesn't want us to hate each other, ever, and that she needs me to at least be in her life. I'm gonna leave her be, and if fates decides that we can be friends after we're both healed, then such is life. I hope we can be. oh wow were you the dumper/dumpee? those were the EXACT words i said to my dumper! and he, as the dumper, told me he isnt ready to be friends now :confused:
tikay00 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 oh wow were you the dumper/dumpee? those were the EXACT words i said to my dumper! and he, as the dumper, told me he isnt ready to be friends now :confused: I was the dumpee.
Day.One Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 depends on the underlying reasons behind the dumping. she doesn't seem indifferent though..which is good i guess! I did lay it out in my thread, but it came down to her feeling "Left behind", "alone", "abandoned" (her words). I think (hope?) that she is slightly to positive side of indifferent. She's given indicators. On D-Day, she said she had no interest in counselling or working anything out.Since then she has softened. She starts counselling this evening and is now actively working on her 'self'. Equally, her emails to me just after D-Day were terse, angry. But now are warmer, and signed "With love". When we met for coffee after a month apart (also in my OP) I tried a couple of MMSLP moves on her and she responded positively. The "10 second kiss" was a definite winner! I did text her earlier. "I'm going to the gym at 7pm. If you don't have plans, i'd like to see you there". She replied back that she's "in her first counselling session". That she'd "let me know afterwards how she feeling". "Thanks for inviting me". Now, if you haven't read my thread, the gym is kind of a big deal. I walk, hike. A lot. But would get pissed when she didn't come with. So when she asked me to join the gym with her, i turned her down flat. In anger. Dumb. When we talked it out, after D-Day, she explained that i walk faster than her, and never slowed down for her when she did come walking. So she would be left behind, alone, as i went off ahead. See my first sentence above... #Facepalm
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