AWESOME first date!!!! Now what??

[WhatIsLove2014]

We all know about her messed up way of thinking.

 

I will say stop moving so fast...it's been 1 date and you are already thinking about him getting you pregnant. Goodness, slow down.

[ComingInHot]

Keep... just, just let him come to you. You told him you had a great time. He told you he had a great time AND that he would like a second date.

It's Monday hon. Chill til at least Thursday. Thursday may be a good time, if you haven't heard from him, to toss him a text just saying 'Hi, given any thought to hanging out this weekend" then wait for a response and respect whatever it is.

 

And for Chr*st's sake, do NOT have unprotected sex... good lord.

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

Keep... just, just let him come to you. You told him you had a great time. He told you he had a great time AND that he would like a second date.

It's Monday hon. Chill til at least Thursday. Thursday may be a good time, if you haven't heard from him, to toss him a text just saying 'Hi, given any thought to hanging out this weekend" then wait for a response and respect whatever it is.

 

And for Chr*st's sake, do NOT have unprotected sex... good lord.

 

I don't just have unprotected sex lol I swear and I am on BC

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

This scares the Hell out of me.

 

As a father of two planned children, a business owner and someone who was married to their mother for the first 7 and 9 years of their lives - I can't tell you how this sort of thinking makes me shudder. Kids are hard. So very very very hard. Even with good and steady income, two planned pregnancies, two people in the house and very involved in the raising of the kids, I have to tell you - it was the hardest thing I've ever done and still to this day is a challenge. I can't even imagine how hard it would have been flying solo or without a committed co-parent.

 

Ideally I won't have to do it solo, I just mean if I am dating someone and get pregnant then it is ok, it happens all the time to people and they do it and make it work.

[WhatIsLove2014]

Ideally I won't have to do it solo, I just mean if I am dating someone and get pregnant then it is ok, it happens all the time to people and they do it and make it work.

 

Go look up the statistics on that.

 

Or just look at the guy you are dating...it didn't work previously for him, right?

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

Go look up the statistics on that.

 

Or just look at the guy you are dating...it didn't work previously for him, right?

 

Well no it didn't but maybe his ex just sucked? She is engaged to her HS sweetheart so maybe she was like always in love with him. I don't know their story but yeah it just.. it works. I talked to a guy a while ago who was great, amazing, he randomly stopped talking to me, I found him on FB like a year later and he had maternity pics with his new GF they were having a gender reveal party, he is now engaged to her. It can happen.

[gaius]

Don't make me tease you again. Stop with the texting, let him chase you a little. Especially if you want to be impregnated. Few things kill our boner like a girl who reeks of desperation.

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

Don't make me tease you again. Stop with the texting, let him chase you a little. Especially if you want to be impregnated. Few things kill our boner like a girl who reeks of desperation.

 

Haha ok, I texted this morning but I will not text anymore first, until maybe later in the week for plans.

[clia]

Haha ok, I texted this morning but I will not text anymore first, until maybe later in the week for plans.

 

Did he respond?

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

Did he respond?

 

Yup He did

[clia]

Yup He did

 

Good. Let him reach out next time and ask you out. Stop chasing.

[Gloria25]

I don't just have unprotected sex lol I swear and I am on BC

 

Until you "miss" a dose/pill or two?

 

Ok, from your other postings here...seems you rush things a bit. Really hope you sit back and reconsider what you're doing and why you think the way you do...

 

Moreover, please consider how other people will be affected by your decisions (i.e. a guy's kids from a previous RL, or a child from a "surprise" pregnancy).

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

Until you "miss" a dose/pill or two?

 

Ok, from your other postings here...seems you rush things a bit. Really hope you sit back and reconsider what you're doing and why you think the way you do...

 

Moreover, please consider how other people will be affected by your decisions (i.e. a guy's kids from a previous RL, or a child from a "surprise" pregnancy).

 

I don't miss doses, if i do I am VERY open about it. I went out with a guy and unfortunately we had sex immediately, I wasn't on BC and I told him. I told him he had to get condoms or we weren't doing it. Then we thought one broke and my period was super late but it was the stress of my move because it came 2 weeks later.

 

I know other people are affected by my decisions but if I were to have a surprise baby I would be a good mom. I know I could be. Anyways we haven't texted much today I am going to try not to chase, I just really want this to work.

[pteromom]

if I were to have a surprise baby I would be a good mom. I know I could be.

 

But you said you don't want to do it alone.

 

And you don't know this guy well enough to know anything about him, much less if he would want to stick around.

 

A surprise baby would be a disaster.

 

First, see if you even have another date.

Then see if you have another.

After that, you can start thinking about whether this is a guy you'd want for a boyfriend.

Then date for at least a year before you start thinking about marriage and babies.

 

I know you have this crazy mindset that you need to be in a hurry to have babies, but building a stable foundation is a very important part of having a baby. It doesn't start with the conception.

[losangelena]

KeepCalm,

 

Can I ask you—why this guy in particular? I know you said you had a good date, but it was just one date. At this point in my dating life, I would put very little stock into one good date. I know it feels good to be hopeful, but I really do think you'd be better off tempering your feelings a bit. At this point, you just never know how he's feeling, so why set yourself up for disappointment?

 

Just a thought.

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

KeepCalm,

 

Can I ask you—why this guy in particular? I know you said you had a good date, but it was just one date. At this point in my dating life, I would put very little stock into one good date. I know it feels good to be hopeful, but I really do think you'd be better off tempering your feelings a bit. At this point, you just never know how he's feeling, so why set yourself up for disappointment?

 

Just a thought.

 

For me it could be any guy, if it wasn't with him it would be someone else you know?

[pteromom]

For me it could be any guy, if it wasn't with him it would be someone else you know?

 

The guy matters a lot.

 

The guy you choose is going to make or break how great your life is.

 

AND how great your children's lives are. The last thing you want is to give these kids you want so badly a father who is abusive, absent, or neglectful.

 

Again, having a baby doesn't start with conception. If you want your life to be about being a mom, you gotta get serious about that and put the work in to make sure you are building them a good life.

[KeepCalmCarryOn]

The guy matters a lot.

 

The guy you choose is going to make or break how great your life is.

 

AND how great your children's lives are. The last thing you want is to give these kids you want so badly a father who is abusive, absent, or neglectful.

 

Again, having a baby doesn't start with conception. If you want your life to be about being a mom, you gotta get serious about that and put the work in to make sure you are building them a good life.

 

This guy is really good, he is a really good dad to this kid now.

Idk it shouldn't be so hard to find someone, I don't need babies like tomorrow but I want to get married now.