Do some women prefer to hang with their own gender?

[irc333]

I know, silly question, as I know some here are likely social butterflies and it matters not to them what gender they spend their time with.

 

But, I'm starting to think that women, mostly single women, prefer to stay in and not hang out with their other friends when going out. Or sometimes they purposely avoid any situation in public that involves mixed genders, but they take no issue if the outing is with only their FEMALE friends.

 

There's this one woman, that's a friend of a friend through Meetup. She invited her as a Plus 1 to event, but never saw that person again, but did see her as a friend on Facebook. They tend to take Vegas trips together, most of the photos this circle of friends are mostly women. No mixes of men in their outings.

 

I have some friends that have tons of photos with mixed friendships with both genders. Group photos involving men, but with this tight knit circle...it's only women. Posed photos of a "woman's only" outing in hot clothes out on the town.

 

Seems like I'm "reaching" her, but they seem to have a "no boys allowed" vibe to the group. Even felt that when I bumped into her and her friends at the Chipotle because I was hanging out with a female friend and she invited them to sit with us.

 

They were like "no thanks" and sat on the other side of the building. Kind of snobbish, but yeah, they seem to be selective of the gender in which they choose to spend their time and if they do choose to be sociable with men....it's only because they have an interest in dating them.

 

I'm not sure if this is entirely healthy, because this one in particular had an online dating profile. This topic could segway (spelling?) into another as I think some women prefer to remain reclusive in nature behind the computer screen as opposed to have to interact with the members of the opposite sex. They may even give off a vibe that they don't care to be around men but only when its necessary or benefits them in some fashion.

 

But, in their defense, the one that I had met through Meetup, who is a bit more open in this fashion said her friends tend to get approached a lot in public to begin with by men and that a Meetup would just further aggravate this.

 

Sounds to me they may need to get over themselves.

 

I recall a woman from Meetup that she says she uses online dating only because there aren't any men in HER area that she'd care to date and SHE lives in a BIG city...and she does do get plenty of opportunities to meet single men, but they aren't someone she'd date. One even vowed to move to even a BIGGER city, but she never did. LOL

 

Anyhow, thoughts on this ? Are there some women who tend to have female friends and no friends of the opposite sex? I recall a post somewhere here where if someone tends to NOT hang with friends with the same gender, where I've heard women tend to get along with MEN better than their own gender...that it was or wasn't healthy or a red flag? Yes...no? ANyone can surmise this?

[preraph]

Yeah, you can't hang out with "the girls" any more than most wives are asked to "hang out with the boys" at the monthly ball game or poker night. When the girls get together, they like to dish about things that are too personal to have any guys around. That's really all it's about. If someone brings their man, they can't talk about their lives. Women talk very intimately with other women, most of them.

[GemmaUK]

I know, silly question, as I know some here are likely social butterflies and it matters not to them what gender they spend their time with.

 

But, I'm starting to think that women, mostly single women, prefer to stay in and not hang out with their other friends when going out. Or sometimes they purposely avoid any situation in public that involves mixed genders, but they take no issue if the outing is with only their FEMALE friends.

 

There's this one woman, that's a friend of a friend through Meetup. She invited her as a Plus 1 to event, but never saw that person again, but did see her as a friend on Facebook. They tend to take Vegas trips together, most of the photos this circle of friends are mostly women. No mixes of men in their outings.

 

I have some friends that have tons of photos with mixed friendships with both genders. Group photos involving men, but with this tight knit circle...it's only women. Posed photos of a "woman's only" outing in hot clothes out on the town.

 

Seems like I'm "reaching" her, but they seem to have a "no boys allowed" vibe to the group. Even felt that when I bumped into her and her friends at the Chipotle because I was hanging out with a female friend and she invited them to sit with us.

 

They were like "no thanks" and sat on the other side of the building. Kind of snobbish, but yeah, they seem to be selective of the gender in which they choose to spend their time and if they do choose to be sociable with men....it's only because they have an interest in dating them.

 

I'm not sure if this is entirely healthy, because this one in particular had an online dating profile. This topic could segway (spelling?) into another as I think some women prefer to remain reclusive in nature behind the computer screen as opposed to have to interact with the members of the opposite sex. They may even give off a vibe that they don't care to be around men but only when its necessary or benefits them in some fashion.

 

But, in their defense, the one that I had met through Meetup, who is a bit more open in this fashion said her friends tend to get approached a lot in public to begin with by men and that a Meetup would just further aggravate this.

 

Sounds to me they may need to get over themselves.

 

I recall a woman from Meetup that she says she uses online dating only because there aren't any men in HER area that she'd care to date and SHE lives in a BIG city...and she does do get plenty of opportunities to meet single men, but they aren't someone she'd date. One even vowed to move to even a BIGGER city, but she never did. LOL

 

Anyhow, thoughts on this ? Are there some women who tend to have female friends and no friends of the opposite sex? I recall a post somewhere here where if someone tends to NOT hang with friends with the same gender, where I've heard women tend to get along with MEN better than their own gender...that it was or wasn't healthy or a red flag? Yes...no? ANyone can surmise this?

 

 

 

 

IRC, they didn't want to sit with you because they had catching up to do and it was open and personal stuff.

They are not snobs they just had a plan for the day.

 

 

Meet up groups and new events - I went to a salsa night for the dancing as I love dancing. It went horribly wrong as I was pounced upon by 8 guys.

 

 

I never went back.

 

 

I am one who in your words therefore should 'get over herself'.

 

 

Can you please explain what I should do?

[BlueIris]

IRC, they didn't want to sit with you because they had catching up to do and it was open and personal stuff.

They are not snobs they just had a plan for the day.

 

I thought that, too. Another non-snobbish possibility is that they might not have wanted to intrude on a possible date you were on. No need to see it negatively.

 

I like having girls’ time. I’ve noticed that men like guys time also. Especially when golfing! lol

 

OP, if you think its unhealthy to like girls' time or guys' time, definitely ask anyone you date if she likes doing that.

[irc333]

Wait, you went to a NON-Singles themed Meetup, and you still got mobbed?

 

I hadn't had that happen at any Meetup groups I've been to. There would occasionally be that "one" guy (usually new to the group) that would tend to hover around one particular woman.

 

This one guy at the Halloween party kept getting to close to this one on the dance floor and then walking her to her car and that's about it.

 

Usually the regulars don't get as intense.

 

 

IRC, they didn't want to sit with you because they had catching up to do and it was open and personal stuff.

They are not snobs they just had a plan for the day.

 

 

Meet up groups and new events - I went to a salsa night for the dancing as I love dancing. It went horribly wrong as I was pounced upon by 8 guys.

 

 

I never went back.

 

 

I am one who in your words therefore should 'get over herself'.

 

 

Can you please explain what I should do?

[irc333]

I thought that, too. Another non-snobbish possibility is that they might not have wanted to intrude on a possible date you were on. No need to see it negatively.

 

I like having girls’ time. I’ve noticed that men like guys time also. Especially when golfing! lol

 

OP, if you think its unhealthy to like girls' time or guys' time, definitely ask anyone you date if she likes doing that.

 

Hm, I was entertaining that thought as well. Though the whole them not being into the whole "Meetup" scene isn't their thing.

 

I have heard non-Meetup members, when talking about how I'm a member, they make a face and ask, "Oh, that's a singles group, right?" and even though it's a "Salsa" or "Kayaking" group....the keyword "Meetup" to them means "Meat up" lol (hook up)

 

There's a negative connotation to it already as even the word "Meetup" makes them cringe.

[SJC2008]

Dude, I'm 33 and have had almost no success with women but yet your posts come accross as rudimentary and clueless. Think about that! Don't mean to call you out but it's non stop with these threads...

[GemmaUK]

Wait, you went to a NON-Singles themed Meetup, and you still got mobbed?

 

I hadn't had that happen at any Meetup groups I've been to. There would occasionally be that "one" guy (usually new to the group) that would tend to hover around one particular woman.

 

This one guy at the Halloween party kept getting to close to this one on the dance floor and then walking her to her car and that's about it.

 

Usually the regulars don't get as intense.

 

Yes, it wasn't a 'singles' event it was just a salsa class and these were all regular attendees (I knew this as the friend I went with told me so as she is also a regular attendee).

 

 

What do we do to 'get over ourselves' IRC?

[Rejected Rosebud]

Just because a woman likes to spend time with her girlfriends doesn't mean anything about how she feels towards men.

 

I know I'm not a snob but I have a close group of girlfriends and we like to do things together. We like guys though.

[scubasteve]

The last girl I pursued, she hated thst it causes drama. But she hangs out with some girls. But she prefer guys instead.

[leavesonautumn]

Anyhow, thoughts on this ? Are there some women who tend to have female friends and no friends of the opposite sex? I recall a post somewhere here where if someone tends to NOT hang with friends with the same gender, where I've heard women tend to get along with MEN better than their own gender...that it was or wasn't healthy or a red flag? Yes...no? ANyone can surmise this?

 

I'm friends with people who I am compatible with and share the same interests with. I find that women who say they hate other women and only get along with men are the ones who are drawn to drama and "how women are". I believe that a woman's biggest supporter should be other women. We should support each other rather then see the other as competition.

 

At the moment, my closest friends are other women. Do you see a problem with this? On this forum, you'd think that men would hate for a woman to have male friends .

 

I'm actually kind of confused by your question. Are you asking if women who only hang out with other women are a red flag or women who hate women are a red flag? If anything, women who hate other women are a red flag as they are probably insecure, jealous and cause drama themselves. None of my female friends cause drama and we get along very well. I'm not sure why there is an assumption that all women are catty and bitchy to be honest.

 

The group of women that you bumped into probably don't have an issue with men. They were just in a conversation together and wanted to have a night out? What's wrong with that? Nothing snobbish.

[irc333]

Well, I'm more so asking somehow that they don't prefer the Meetup groups because they have this fear of men hitting on them, and the THINK these Meetups my perpetuate that or they don't want to have to deal with that in their lives currently.

 

One of them expressed one of her friends gets approached out of the blue by men as it is, so being in an environment where there are "organized" events that provides an opportunity to meet other men would just inflame that situation.

 

I'm not saying women only hanging out with women is a bad thing, but I'm asking do some women purposely avoid situations where men are around . (I believe that's what I'm driving at here) Sometimes I tend to attempt to connect the two, but maybe I'm reaching way out there.

 

I saw one ofher friends on Match.com, so I found it a bit ironic that they'd go online to meet men, but not meet them in a public venue.

 

 

 

 

I'm friends with people who I am compatible with and share the same interests with. I find that women who say they hate other women and only get along with men are the ones who are drawn to drama and "how women are". I believe that a woman's biggest supporter should be other women. We should support each other rather then see the other as competition.

 

At the moment, my closest friends are other women. Do you see a problem with this? On this forum, you'd think that men would hate for a woman to have male friends .

 

I'm actually kind of confused by your question. Are you asking if women who only hang out with other women are a red flag or women who hate women are a red flag? If anything, women who hate other women are a red flag as they are probably insecure, jealous and cause drama themselves. None of my female friends cause drama and we get along very well. I'm not sure why there is an assumption that all women are catty and bitchy to be honest.

 

The group of women that you bumped into probably don't have an issue with men. They were just in a conversation together and wanted to have a night out? What's wrong with that? Nothing snobbish.

[leavesonautumn]

Well, I'm more so asking somehow that they don't prefer the Meetup groups because they have this fear of men hitting on them, and the THINK these Meetups my perpetuate that or they don't want to have to deal with that in their lives currently.

 

One of them expressed one of her friends gets approached out of the blue by men as it is, so being in an environment where there are "organized" events that provides an opportunity to meet other men would just inflame that situation.

 

I'm not saying women only hanging out with women is a bad thing, but I'm asking do some women purposely avoid situations where men are around . (I believe that's what I'm driving at here) Sometimes I tend to attempt to connect the two, but maybe I'm reaching way out there.

 

I saw one ofher friends on Match.com, so I found it a bit ironic that they'd go online to meet men, but not meet them in a public venue.

 

I've never been to a "Meet up" so I have no idea what it entails so I was speaking from my experiences. Judging from how you talk about them, I'd be afraid to go to one as well.

 

Sure, there are times when women like to spend time with other women and maybe that situation means other men are not around. As I'm sure men do the same thing. Why do you care so much? Honestly, not being rude, sincerely asking. If the point of a meetup is to meet the opposite sex, then obviously they're having "girl time" in the wrong venue but that's their problem.

[clia]

I'm also confused by your question. Do you also think it's strange when a group of men get together to go golfing or play poker? I don't think it's uncommon at all that a group of women might want to get together and go out to eat or hang out, without the goal of talking to men our being hit on by men. When I get together with my girlfriends, we usually just want to spend time together and not worry about men.

 

Well, I'm more so asking somehow that they don't prefer the Meetup groups because they have this fear of men hitting on them, and the THINK these Meetups my perpetuate that or they don't want to have to deal with that in their lives currently.

 

Some women may avoid Meetups because they don't want to get hit on all night; others may avoid Meetups because they don't care for it; others may avoid Meetups because the groups aren't doing any activities they want to do at the moment; others may avoid Meetups for any number of other reasons.

 

And yes, sometimes women just want to hang out with their girlfriends and not have to worry about getting hit on every five seconds by a guy who can't take a hint.

 

And yes, men at Meetup events that aren't even "singles" events do hit on women. I went to a fun Meetup event on Saturday night with my fiance and had two creepy guys hitting on me all night, even though he was standing right next to me (laughing, as it were). Talk about annoying. Meetup events are notorious for guys who just cannot take a hint and want to stand around by you all night, even when you are not expressing interest. It's not surprising to me that some women might find that to be a turn-off and would decide to avoid Meetups in the future.

 

I'm not saying women only hanging out with women is a bad thing, but I'm asking do some women purposely avoid situations where men are around . (I believe that's what I'm driving at here) Sometimes I tend to attempt to connect the two, but maybe I'm reaching way out there.

 

I would say that yes, sometimes women might avoid situations where men are around, particularly if they want to catch up with their girl friends or just hang out with their girlfriends.

[Phoe]

I like to hang with people whom I get along with and like. Whether they have a penis or a vagina isn't particularly relevant.