Lansing Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 I agree with others. You should stop contacting her. And, stop googling ways "how to get a girl to respond", etc. Move on. If by slight chance you hear from her again then don't respond with 20 text messages in a row. Just keep things simple and non-needy.
InsaneTrombone Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 (edited) I love how we have came so far to have statistics about this bull****. This isn't about the chase, or overchase, or clingyness, or whatever else anybody wants to classify it as. It's disrespectful, that's what it is. It's also immature - both on her end. It takes literally 5 seconds of your day to respond to a text. She saw them, ignored them because she doesn't want to speak with you. OP - leave her alone and be glad she isn't answering your texts. She's probably a huge time sinker. If she isn't answering your texts, she isn't that interested anymore for whatever reason. The reason doesn't really matter. Don't waste your time on this one any longer. Edited November 3, 2014 by InsaneTrombone 1
Author cessna Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 I love how we have came so far to have statistics about this bull****. This isn't about the chase, or overchase, or clingyness, or whatever else anybody wants to classify it as. It's disrespectful, that's what it is. It's also immature - both on her end. It takes literally 5 seconds of your day to respond to a text. She saw them, ignored them because she doesn't want to speak with you. OP - leave her alone and be glad she isn't answering your texts. She's probably a huge time sinker. If she isn't answering your texts, she isn't that interested any more for whatever reason. The reason doesn't really matter. Don't waste your time on this one any longer. I totally agree. I find it rude and disrespectful to be honest. Even more so considering she initiated conversation, was all over me the whole night, made me take her number and give her mine and then told me she wanted to meet up again. If she's changed her mind then fine, she could do the decent thing and tell me though. I'm a big boy, I'm not going to cry over it.
slizl Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 You just came off too clingy and hopefully have learned your lesson for next time. Here is your problem: "And then the messages just stopped on Tuesday. Nothing. I sent a message on Tuesday, no reply. Thought fair enough, probably busy, I'll leave it today. Wednesday sent a couple of words to grab her attention, still nothing. So on Thursday I messaged her saying the ball is in her court now, if she still wants to meet up to text me and I've left it at that." My rule of thumb is in the beginning, NEVER send more than two texts without a response from the other party. She was somewhere abroad and either had bad reception, or I don't know, maybe super busy on vacation??? So what do you do after not hearing from her in like 48 hours? You say the ball is in her court now and look like a total weirdo. You had one good night and a make out sesh, she owes you nada. Pump the brakes next time and take it easy and you might get a second date. 2
preraph Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 You do realize there are places where a smartphone doesn't work around the globe? I mean, there are places right here in Texas I can't get a signal. You should never keep texting someone who hasn't texted back. Think if she hasn't had access and then comes back online and sees all this desperation and anger. You text once and if they don't text back, clearly, they're not interested. Yes, they could flake out -- but if you're not important enough to them to not even remember they haven't texted you back, why pursue it??
Author cessna Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Maybe I messed up then. Crazy how a couple of messages can seemingly turn a girl off like that... Also this was on WhatsApp so you can see when the other person was last online and if they have seen your messages. I was trying not to be clingy but maybe that's how it's come across.
chimpanA-2-chimpanZ Posted November 3, 2014 Posted November 3, 2014 One message would have been fine. Two is pushing it. Three is way too many, and a dramatic-ish statement about the ball being in my court would just reaffirm my belief that I shouldn't drink so much tequila. She owes you nothing after one encounter. Yes, perhaps it would have been nicer to say she's not interested, but ignoring you says the exact same thing. Let it go.
sid3 Posted November 4, 2014 Posted November 4, 2014 One message would have been fine. Two is pushing it. Three is way too many, and a dramatic-ish statement about the ball being in my court would just reaffirm my belief that I shouldn't drink so much tequila. She owes you nothing after one encounter. Yes, perhaps it would have been nicer to say she's not interested, but ignoring you says the exact same thing. Let it go. Quoted for truth. Next time seriously reconsider even sending a second text message.
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