creyente7 Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 So i texted my ex last night after 2 weeks of NC. I was at the lowest point of my life, I felt dying was better than feeling this pain, it's never hurt So bad thats why I texted her. yes, i felt guilty right after, but the pain was too much. Just a series of events led to me feeling that way. Anyways, I want to tell her today that I will be blocking her from all social media. I know she might not care but I don't want her to think I hate her because she didn't do anything wrong, my relationship just wasnt in the right time and place. But I want to tell her this because it will help me move on. Would this be a good idea? Maybe one day when her and I finish college i'll try to contact her again. right now I need to move on and block her from all social media but not make her think I hate her. Good or bad?
Seeker12 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Telling her wont help you, trust me. You telling her is your way of finding a way and reason to reach out to her, maybe to even coax a reaction from her. If you want to mutually end it on good terms, then i think very formally and to the point, tell her, but remember youll most likely feel this bad, and like this again somewhere down the line. Dont think of maybe one days, and ifs and buts, she will most likely by that time have moved on, and so would have you. Focus on the present right now, we all are doing our best to do so, im in day 12 now of NC.
jackinthebox1 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 I text mine straight after she broke it off to let her know that it was easiest for me that way n no hard feelings. I dont think now you are down the line its worth contacting though, you'll just go back to square on
Author creyente7 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 I text mine straight after she broke it off to let her know that it was easiest for me that way n no hard feelings. I dont think now you are down the line its worth contacting though, you'll just go back to square on I already have contacted her and yes back to square one, even worse than square one. It hurt more than the day she broke it off. Also i guess I was thinking of doing this not to sound bitter and cold towards her but just to let her know its for my own good. She knows im hurting, so Im sure she will understand. But I guess I thought about doing this so that maybe somewhere down the road, when we're both finished with college and have completely healed that we could reconcile and start a new relationship. Of course theres no guarantees to this but ending it on a bad note will most certainly kill any chances of reconciling. Im trying to get advice on the best way to go about this situation. She said that a relationship right now is too stressful for her because she's going to medical school and working full time.
preraph Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 It's okay to text her and just let her know you're going no contact for your own sanity but that you wish her well.
jackinthebox1 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Im trying to get advice on the best way to go about this situation. She said that a relationship right now is too stressful for her because she's going to medical school and working full time. Thats exactly what mine said to a degree. That maybe we could try again later but someone either wants to be with you or they don't and you may never know what the issue was. If you are going to text make it as brief as possible and ask her not to text or call you and all the best
Author creyente7 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 Im trying to get advice on the best way to go about this situation. She said that a relationship right now is too stressful for her because she's going to medical school and working full time. Thats exactly what mine said to a degree. That maybe we could try again later but someone either wants to be with you or they don't and you may never know what the issue was. If you are going to text make it as brief as possible and ask her not to text or call you and all the best So what you're saying is that, this is just womanese? Theres no meaning behind it?
Seeker12 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 So what you're saying is that, this is just womanese? Theres no meaning behind it? Exactly that, dont think too deeply its all just womanese, me and my ex went through uni, and heavy stressful deadlines etc. individually but also together, but never was it a reason for us to separate, instead we joined together and helped eachother where we could.
sammyy3 Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 It has been a month since my break up and no contact for 3 weeks. I was the one who broke it off because my ex is an alcoholic. I wanted him to know that I dont hate him and that I loved him. I broke down and sent him an email saying those things. It made me feel so much better. I just needed him to know. I don't want to get back with him I just needed him to know in case something happened to him because he is a alcoholic. This morning I told my counselor and she was actually ok with it. She told me there is nothing wrong with sending a last email with your thoughts and feelings as long as your intentions about the relationship stand strong. For me, I know I won't go back to him because he is not changing his behavior. It was for my benefit and it helped. My counselor agrees with no contact but she said each situation is different. Don't know if this helps your situation but just a thought.
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