Georgia2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Ive known this guy for 2 years. He does know I like him and we do text a lot. Is there any way I can get out of the friend zone through text? I do know for a fact he is single. I don't know if this matters or not he is older he is twice my age.
Assasda Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 If he's twice your age, its pretty significant. I dont think you'll be able to do this through text. Try going out with him ask him a lot of questions. flirt with him
Author Georgia2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 I did ask him if he's having any luck with online dating he said he's not. He's having the same problems with it I am. I am hoping by subtly talking about our bad luck on dating sites he might think about asking me out.
Assasda Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 I did ask him if he's having any luck with online dating he said he's not. He's having the same problems with it I am. I am hoping by subtly talking about our bad luck on dating sites he might think about asking me out. As a guy, Trust me when I say, I dont think that will work. With the age difference, he proabably, just thinks of you as little sister.
Author Georgia2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 As a guy, Trust me when I say, I dont think that will work. With the age difference, he proabably, just thinks of you as little sister. We have gone out on dates before it was never exclusive when we did date. Is there any subtle way I can change his mind?
Author Georgia2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 As a guy, Trust me when I say, I dont think that will work. With the age difference, he proabably, just thinks of you as little sister. We have done things he would never do with his sisters.
somedude81 Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 We have done things he would never do with his sisters. So then you've had sex? Are you friends with benefits or just a booty call?
Author Georgia2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 (edited) So then you've had sex? Are you friends with benefits or just a booty call? We never had sex I did give him oral sex twice in the beginning and that was it sexually we dated for months after that and he didn't kiss me or anything. He always paid for the dates and even bought me gifts. I also bought him stuff as well. I know he is afraid of being hurt again. His ex wives both badly hurt him. Edited November 1, 2014 by Georgia2014
Assasda Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 We never had sex I did give him oral sex twice the first two dates and that was it sexually we dated for months after that and he didn't kiss me or anything. He always paid for the dates and even bought me gifts. I also bought him stuff as well. I know he is afraid of being hurt again. lol. You obviously dont know what the friendzone is then. You girl, are not in the friendzone. Since you gave this new info. You probably should just ask him out to some fun place. Go bowling of something. Treat him. While youre out with him, ask him a lot of questions about himself
Author Georgia2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 lol. You obviously dont know what the friendzone is then. You girl, are not in the friendzone. Since you gave this new info. You probably should just ask him out to some fun place. Go bowling of something. Treat him. While youre out with him, ask him a lot of questions about himself We haven't seen each other in a year.
Tik Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 As a guy, lets just put it straight that a girl is NEVER in the friendzone in a guys mind Basically put down to it, you're on a continuum of girls he'd like to get with and at the moment, you're on the bottom wrung. Perceptively you have to change how he views you. The reason people get out of the friendzone is when they've done an overhaul of themselves; many a times for the better and then the other person enters their life again and a new attraction begins. 1) Cut him off totally, no more texting, nothing no contact 2) Focus on yourself and give yourself time; eat healthy, exercise, get a new fashion overhaul 3) Start having the time of your life; go out with friends, make new friends, do stupid things even if you're older (why not, sooner or later everyone 'carks' it ) 4) Don't be surprised if they somehow enter your life again intrigued at the new you and wanting a part of it; then you decide what you want to do. Don't be surprised either if you suddenly meet a new happily ever after Basically you're no different to any other dude that has been friendzoned. We're all the same. You've thought that maintaining contact for them to one day realise and fall head over heels is the way to go but unfortunately the more you're a round the more they'll drift away. Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
preraph Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Look, you've had oral sex, so he knows you like him, but he didn't stick around. He probably feels bad he even had any kind of sex with you; hence the gifts. I have to believe if he'd wanted to, he'd have just kept asking you out. I mean, plenty of old guys would be happy with this arrangement. It's to his credit that he is not. You may be too immature for him or remind him of his daughter.
Author Georgia2014 Posted November 2, 2014 Author Posted November 2, 2014 (edited) Look, you've had oral sex, so he knows you like him, but he didn't stick around. He probably feels bad he even had any kind of sex with you; hence the gifts. I have to believe if he'd wanted to, he'd have just kept asking you out. I mean, plenty of old guys would be happy with this arrangement. It's to his credit that he is not. You may be too immature for him or remind him of his daughter. Just so you know people have always told me how mature I am and I am for my age. He doesn't have a daughter or any kids. Edited November 2, 2014 by Georgia2014
heartshaped Posted November 2, 2014 Posted November 2, 2014 If you haven't seen each other in a year I think it's safe to say he isn't interested and it's just not going to happen. I'd focus my efforts on other prospects.
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