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Breakup survivors, how did you do it?


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The breakup I had before this recent one, I remember reading every article, book, and going to therapy and it still didn't work. Those things worked for a while but eventually my mind went back to my ex.

 

It wasn't until I got a new job and met someone else that I instantly got over him. The new guy and I didn't last but he opened my eyes to how unfit my ex was for me, and how there are many more opportunities out there for me as long as I get off my butt and get out the house and do stuff.

 

Do you guys remember what you guys did to get over your ex completely?

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Yup.

Slow but sure, one step at a time.

 

You get over it, but never forget it. Sadly, some people confuse one for the other.

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I'm still getting over my ex but I kissed a guy on a night out a couple of months ago and it was amazing! I still smile thinking about it! That helped!

 

I'm glad things have turned out well for you :)

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I guess the only real way I get over the initial hurt is with time. I find it a lot easier to move on from an @--hole because I know it had nothing to do with me, but more to do with how they treat people. So realising what a douche the guy is can help.

 

I then take some time to focus on myself, try new hobbies, have fun with friends, maybe go on holiday... I do get some satisfaction that I always seem to hear from my exes, in some form or the other, which I'm learning as I get older is best left ignored.

 

I think I only truly get over a guy when I meet someone that I have chemistry with. I'm not talking about the rebound dates where you're just not feeling it, I'm talking meeting someone who gives you butterflies.

 

One of the big reasons why breaks ups are hard to get over is the worry that you'll never meet someone else. But again, as you get older and meet new people, as well as have a few exes behind you, you know you eventually will meet someone new.

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I got on here, took the advice given, drank, felt the pain and didn't try to suppress it, until the pain was gone.

 

I'm at acceptance, not indifference, but I'll take anything besides the initial stages of grief.

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