Help with one night stand?

[Impressive1]

I was hanging out with friends and they invited alot of their other friends over, I thought this one guy was pretty cute but never really thought more than that about it soberly anyway, I ended up sleeping with him,he's only 22. The next afternoon he acted mature about the situation and glad that it happened, he asked if he should give me his number. I wouldn't mind seeing him again, but I would rather our mutual friends not know what had happened between us. Should I call? Is 8 years to big of an age difference? If I should call, how long do I wait?

This isnt' something I normally do, in fact, I have been out of a relationship for a few years now, and never have one night stands. What do you think?

[Fun2BMe]

I don't see a problem with dating younger men. I am tired of old men dating women much younger, as if the men are all that. If you enjoy his company, just give him a call I would wait at least a few days. See where it will lead you two.

[Impressive1]

Thanks for the reply! Most of my friends are alot younger than I am. I was unsure what to do, thanks for letting me know.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Fun2BMe

I don't see a problem with dating younger men.

no, i think she is 14 and he is 22.

[Fun2BMe]

Alpha - she says she is 30 and he is 22, not the other way around. Her friends are younger than her.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Fun2BMe

Alpha - she says she is 30 and he is 22, not the other way around. Her friends are younger than her.

oh sorry, from her pic she looks 14.

[XNemesisX]

I don't see the problem in it at all. I'm 22 myself, and while I can't speak for 22 year old guys, I can tell you that 8 years isn't that big of a difference, in my opinion. If I met a 30 year old that I liked well enough, I would date him.

 

I think the real issue would be the one night stand thing. It seems as though relationships that begin like this seem to fizzle out just as quickly as they started. I hope I'm wrong.

 

Definitely just give it a few days then give him a ring. Just be sure that you don't let the whole thing be strictly revolved around sex if you want it to ever be more than that.

 

Good luck

[Impressive1]

14? Wow, I didn't realize I looked that young, although I know I don't feel as old as 30 sounds. lol. Thanks for the advice, the entire one night stand thing, well, the last one I had or so I thought to have been a one night stand,ended up in a 5 1/2 year relationship. I will call in a few days and let you guys know how it goes. Thanks so much for all of your advice.

[SummerRae]

I agree with u Impressive... Although I think one night stands can lead to awkwardness and a certain set of emotional expectations that can't help but develop when we share that intimacy with someone.

 

But I definitely think that if there is a genuine connection on more than one level, the one night stand shouldn't really hinder things from developing.

 

My ex and I shagged (excuse the british-speak, but I prefer shag to slept w/) one week after meeting...... But I KNEW (or thought I knew) the connection was really strong and the chemistry btwn us was deeper than the pillow and sheets. We ended up having a 4 year love affair.

 

As for the age? I think it's only a number. My ex was 9 years older and it presented no problem (in some ways, I actually felt MORE mature than him!) It's all about the connection, I think.

 

Good luck Impressive and let us know how it goes!

[WithOrWithoutYou]

I don't see a problem. He's 22. You're 30, and you look 22. You are both consenting adults. You enjoy each other's company. Why not go out with him, and see where it goes, and why bother keeping it a secret from your friends?

 

Life is short, and among adults, age is just a number. You never know where you might find love, or even just someone who is really great fun to spend time with. So don't throw it away.

[life loser]

...as long as you didn't tell him you were 14!

[Impressive1]

Of course I didn't tell him I was 14, you are funny