maradona Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 hi everyone, I am having a complete relapse again it's been 2 days I can't focus at work it's like I am reliving everything and trying hard not to talk about it at work.... Stupidest reason too I am not sure if it's because it was Halloween memories or imagining what she could be doing or not doing.... Also what kickstarted all this was a girl from work we were out for drinks talking (she's attractive n knows it seems a bit narcissistic? - for some reason always the kind girl I'm attracted to.......) learning from that mistake Anyway we were chatting n she said she was dating a guy for 1 yr someone she loved. They broke up. This is what se said " yea like after 3 months he called me saying he missed me. I was like please I don't even think about u nah pathetic right?" .......... I don't know why, but this for some reason affected me a lot. How can u talk that way about someone u loved........... They call u to tell u they care this is how u talk about them? It made me confirm why I never broke nc n never will but tables turned I would never say that about a girl I dated that I cared about. I never have. I find this disgusting... Why is this affecting me so much?? I was doing great...it's frustrating!!
preraph Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 I'm thinking something she said struck a cord because you saw yourself in it.
Author maradona Posted November 1, 2014 Author Posted November 1, 2014 Yea it made me imagine if I broke nc and contacted her that's what she would say about me... I more than imagine I am almost certain.. So it really stuck a cord... That made the whole process restart again... Is that normal??
dclan Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 hi everyone, I am having a complete relapse again it's been 2 days I can't focus at work it's like I am reliving everything and trying hard not to talk about it at work.... Stupidest reason too I am not sure if it's because it was Halloween memories or imagining what she could be doing or not doing.... Also what kickstarted all this was a girl from work we were out for drinks talking (she's attractive n knows it seems a bit narcissistic? - for some reason always the kind girl I'm attracted to.......) learning from that mistake Anyway we were chatting n she said she was dating a guy for 1 yr someone she loved. They broke up. This is what se said " yea like after 3 months he called me saying he missed me. I was like please I don't even think about u nah pathetic right?" .......... I don't know why, but this for some reason affected me a lot. How can u talk that way about someone u loved........... They call u to tell u they care this is how u talk about them? It made me confirm why I never broke nc n never will but tables turned I would never say that about a girl I dated that I cared about. I never have. I find this disgusting... Why is this affecting me so much?? I was doing great...it's frustrating!! Let me put it this way: If she had told you the guys used to beat her up, insult her, spit on her and call her a whore....then is it ok if she talked bad about him? I know I'm exaggerating, but the point is: you don't know why she said what she said, maybe because she is just being mean, or maybe because she has genuine reasons to why she said that. You don't know their story, so don't compare it to yours. At this point your sad about a break up, so anything "mean" a woman says about a man will offend you. 1
preraph Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 Yea it made me imagine if I broke nc and contacted her that's what she would say about me... I more than imagine I am almost certain.. So it really stuck a cord... That made the whole process restart again... Is that normal?? Yeah, it's normal. Don't act on it, though. You are still sort of processing that whole relationship, so that's a good sign the NC is working. Don't set yourself back by acting on your impulses you will occasionally get from something that reminds you of her. You're doing good. Hang in there. 1
JDPT Posted November 1, 2014 Posted November 1, 2014 You will be very sensitive to anything you see or hear and well immediately apply it to your current situation. It's totally normal, however, understand that others reality is theirs to live and you shouldn't see yourself in them or consulate scenarios such as the one of your ex reaching out. Give yourself some time and you will have a totally different perspective on this topic. 4
Author maradona Posted November 3, 2014 Author Posted November 3, 2014 Thank you very much guys survived another wave it seems the circle is closing again.. On s positive it didn't last as long as before. NC continues!! 4 months still surviving.. I hope I won't give in.. The thought of her stil cripples me at work but I am getting better at not thinking about it... How do you know when ur hood enough to bump into them without falling apart on the inside?
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