Short question - Girl that used to be obsessed with me is distant?

[jopz]

A girl I like has been the perfect girl for 5 out of the 6 months I've known her. Messaged me every day, good morning texts, snap chats. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Suddenly at the beginning of this month she just snapped. For whatever reason, she's been treating me like **** but claiming "Nothing is wrong". And I mean, not responding to texts as much, never a good morning text, no more chats (It's a pain, I guess?).

 

I went no contact when she was being snappy for a few days, and when I returned she got even more angry and acted like it was all my fault.

 

I kid you not. She went off RANDOMLY. I did NOTHING wrong. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Should I ignore her for another week or just drop her.

 

 

So basically - It went from . Good morning , snap chats, how happy she was to be talking to me, ect ,ect.

 

To - Rarely initiating first, one word answers, acting very annoyed, when I ask what's wrong "NOTHING! STOP OVER ANALYZING!".

 

I was going to visit her in April, now she is falling back on that choice. I have no idea why. She is still heavily physically attracted to me, but that's it.

 

What happened!?

[lil_lionwoman]

Did her withdrawal or anger happen after you brought up the possibility of meeting up? What were you discussing? It might seem out of the blue but there is probably something you said in one of your conversations that freaked her out......

You might have to think hard and to you it might be minuscule but it could be the reason behind her sudden change in behavior.

 

It could also be that she's dealing with something that has absolutely nothing to do with you, but I doubt that because from what you've said it seems as though her actions have something to do with you....

 

Any more info you could provide would help me out.

[leavesonautumn]

If she can't have a mature conversation with you and really say what's on her mind, are you sure you want to be with this person? Sounds like she will play games with you or won't be upfront. She could also not be interested anymore and isn't sure how to say it so she wants you to be the one to break it off. She probably wasn't happy that you just stopped talking to her completely for a few days but it's just an excuse to place the "blame" on you, in my opinion.

 

I don't know about you but when I like someone and want to meet them, I don't treat them like ****. Some people just don't initiate contact often or they're okay with going a while without talking but she is being mean when you DO talk. That's not a good sign. You should ask her if she's willing to talk about how it's making you feel and if she isn't, then break it off.

[jopz]

So, I talked to her today. Good and no good.

 

When I tell her that she doesn't seem like she likes talking to me anymore, and that I just don't think she feels as strong, she gets upset and says "Oh, so now you're gonna do this? I'm tired of explaining myself!".

 

When we have normal bull**** conversations, she loves that.

 

We used to talk about everything. She'd tell me she always thought about me waking up/going to bed, how she wanted to spend our birthdays together. After she said goodnight, would leave little X's, ect, ect.

 

But she stopped doing all of that randomly and has become turned off. So by me asking her why she stopped being so affectionate at random, that gives her an excuse to do them even less, and now says she stopped being affectionate because I take everything "Too seriously".

 

So basically - she randomly stopped being affectionate.

- When I asked why she did that, she tells that I take things to seriously

- using me asking that as an excuse to do them even less because "I take things to seriously and make her explain herself".

 

I never play the victim, my game sucks. But this time, she just quit being affectionate, won't say she's attracted to me, or does in an indirect way.

 

I'll ask "Do you even feel the same way you used to? Just be honest">

 

And it's always "Yes, BUT I am so tired of explaining myself, ect,ect'.

 

Total mess LOL

 

TL;DR

 

You know what the crazy part is too?

 

Here is a good example. It's not like "Oh, I was driving my car and the turn signal stopped working. It blinks left, but not right. The headlights work, and so does everything else that's electrical!"

 

No, this is like "Well, I was trying to start my car and what do you know. Everything electrical has died. All of the other units work, brakes are fine, good tires, but nope. Nothing electrical!".

 

My point? - The affection in all areas has dropped. EVERYTHING. No more cute little X's, no more telling me how much she things of me, or telling me she wants to visit so badly, no more talking about sexual things. But, normal social talk? Talking about useless ****. Sure !

 

It's almost like we're... (vomits) FRIENDS.

Edited November 2, 2014 by jopz

[ExpatInItaly]

If she's not as interested, don't press her for what's wrong. You asked her once (and fair enough) but she didn't respond well. That's all you need to know for the time being. Leave it at that and give her space. Don't ask her anymore what's going on; don't initiate contact right now.

 

As another poster asked, did her change in attitude come about when you mentioned meeting? At this point, I'd say the drama isn't worth it for someone you've never met.

[justwhoiam]

A girl I like has been the perfect girl for 5 out of the 6 months I've known her. Messaged me every day, good morning texts, snap chats. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Suddenly at the beginning of this month she just snapped. For whatever reason, she's been treating me like **** but claiming "Nothing is wrong". And I mean, not responding to texts as much, never a good morning text, no more chats

Something ruined the mood. It could be due to something you did, said, directly or indirectly, or even not related to you.

 

I went no contact when she was being snappy for a few days, and when I returned she got even more angry and acted like it was all my fault.

The disappearing act worsened everything.

 

I did NOTHING wrong.

Men are often clueless, but usually there's a reason behind it. Unless she's psychotic or something like that.

 

Should I ignore her for another week or just drop her.

Only you can decide that. If you want another chance to her heart, both those options would likely be the wrong ones.

 

"NOTHING! STOP OVER ANALYZING!"

Obviously it's not nothing. But you are just making it worse.

 

I was going to visit her in April

There's still time until April. I'd say, give yourself time from now to January. And then you make a final decision regarding your trip.

 

My suggestions if you'd like trying to get it back to normal:

1. don't be affectionate with her

2. don't ask questions about how she feels about you (she will have to give it away without you asking)

3. be positive & cheerful when you talk to her

4. console her if she opens up with you and needs that

5. don't play games about answering, or replying late, etc., just be spontaneous, which means answer if you can, and if you cannot, answer as soon as you can

6. if she brings up how things were in the past, don't hide your nostalgia for how things were in the past, like: "oh, it was great with you in the past"

7. don't bring up your trip ever

8. if she brings up your trip in any way, just say you'd still like to visit her

9. if she asks how you feel about her, just say "I'm into you and I'd like to meet you"

 

If things go well, all that will kind of drive her crazy. She will either get bothered or try to get things back as they were.

[Thegreatestthing]

I'm doing this a bit to my bf at the moment,it definately means there losing a bit of interest I had been thinking about another guy on and off,and just was getting involved in my hobbies and things,there's nothing you can do,acting more keen doesn't help too much.

 

 

A girl I like has been the perfect girl for 5 out of the 6 months I've known her. Messaged me every day, good morning texts, snap chats. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Suddenly at the beginning of this month she just snapped. For whatever reason, she's been treating me like **** but claiming "Nothing is wrong". And I mean, not responding to texts as much, never a good morning text, no more chats (It's a pain, I guess?).

 

I went no contact when she was being snappy for a few days, and when I returned she got even more angry and acted like it was all my fault.

 

I kid you not. She went off RANDOMLY. I did NOTHING wrong. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Should I ignore her for another week or just drop her.

 

 

So basically - It went from . Good morning , snap chats, how happy she was to be talking to me, ect ,ect.

 

To - Rarely initiating first, one word answers, acting very annoyed, when I ask what's wrong "NOTHING! STOP OVER ANALYZING!".

 

I was going to visit her in April, now she is falling back on that choice. I have no idea why. She is still heavily physically attracted to me, but that's it.

 

What happened!?

[jopz]

Thank you all for such great responses. This is my LAST question that I left out. It's fairly huge and is either nothing.... or the final nail in the coffin.

 

I asked her what she did for halloween and she said "OH, I ran into some of the boys that work next store to me and I spent the night with them! They're just friends!".

 

At that point I felt like. Man, no matter how much I like this girl. These guys win. They can see her in person, I can't.

 

Yeah know? I felt like just saying - **** it.

 

Not so much in an act of jealously, but that they win in terms of accessibility.

 

Really wish I never started talking to this girl. I'm such a creature of habit.

 

Here is what I think happened. And I think I'm right. - I think something happened to her that had nothing to do with me, and she took it out on me and snapped on me. Whether it was finding a new guy, or a family issue. When I tried to get closer to her and find out what it was. That pushed her away even more and I ruined it.

Edited November 2, 2014 by jopz

[emi]

A girl I like has been the perfect girl for 5 out of the 6 months I've known her. Messaged me every day, good morning texts, snap chats. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Suddenly at the beginning of this month she just snapped. For whatever reason, she's been treating me like **** but claiming "Nothing is wrong". And I mean, not responding to texts as much, never a good morning text, no more chats (It's a pain, I guess?).

 

I went no contact when she was being snappy for a few days, and when I returned she got even more angry and acted like it was all my fault.

 

I kid you not. She went off RANDOMLY. I did NOTHING wrong. I loved talking to this girl.

 

Should I ignore her for another week or just drop her.

 

 

So basically - It went from . Good morning , snap chats, how happy she was to be talking to me, ect ,ect.

 

To - Rarely initiating first, one word answers, acting very annoyed, when I ask what's wrong "NOTHING! STOP OVER ANALYZING!".

 

I was going to visit her in April, now she is falling back on that choice. I have no idea why. She is still heavily physically attracted to me, but that's it.

 

What happened!?

i dont know, tired of being always the one to start convo? Tired of showing more feeling and feel like being taken for granted?

[jopz]

If you'renew reading this, disregard the posts above that I wrote ^

 

I didn't message her, and now she's doing the "Goodnight! XXX" when I didn't respond. Trying to get my attention.

 

I don't get it. Posted pics of other male celebrities on instagram trying to make me jealous (With the captions she wrote), but when she saw that i didn't react, she deleted them all.

 

 

She used to be such a good girl who didn't play games. The games, they're not cute.

[ExpatInItaly]

You're right, the games aren't cute. She's immature, and you don't need that in your life. Get her off your social media and move on.