Nomad Posted March 13, 2005 Posted March 13, 2005 Question for the ladies...when a guy approaches you in a bar/club, what does he usually say to grab your attention? What sort of thing flatters you & what is a turn off/creeps you out? BTW, thanks to everybody who responded to my previous posts, I appreciated it.
Linlin Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 It varies. I am pretty social so if someone approaches me with manners and respect, I'll usually talk to them. Someone who just seems honest and sincere. My opinion is if you approach someone politely and they turn up their nose at you, they are not worth getting to know. Just because youtalk to someone doesn't mean that you are going home with them. Flattery usually works. I usually get complemented on my eyes or smile. The last guy I dated for a bit came up to me and said, "Excuse me for saying this, but you are abolutely beautiful. May I buy you a drink." I hate it if guys are touchy feely that I don't know. That will usually make me standoffish. Or staring at my b**bs. I know I have them but my eyes are up here.
Fun2BMe Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Same here. If they touch my shoulder and anywhere on my body I cringe and that's the end of that. I fall for it when they give me a compliment. That is one you can't miss. If it's a total line like do I know you or something like that it makes me roll my eyes. Say she has a pretty smile or eyes like Linlin suggests and that is sure to get you far!
Merin Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 I met my currant BF at a club... What he did... he smiled, he made eye contact... My GF's with me told me he had been watching me all night.. so I watched him for awhile.. he wasn't looking every female that went past him up and down.. he wasn't being *stupid* he was with one of his friends just chillin and having some drinks. I went over to him and asked him to dance with me.. he said "I don't dance.. but I will for you" He was polite, he wasn't gropping me... he asked my name, told me his... danced with me the rest of the night and asked for my number straight up. That was before Christmas and we've been together ever since What made him stand out was... He wasn't grabbing on me or anyone else in the club He was polite and sincere He made direct eye contact and has an amazing smile He asked for my number and didn't try to get me home with him that night He introduced me to his friends who were with him He came over and met my GF's who were with me IMO these were all good signs that he wasn't there trying to hook up with someone... but was sincere about meeting someone to spend time with.... so far, so good.
alphamale Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Originally posted by Merin .. he said "I don't dance.. but I will for you" i'll have to remember that line. that is good.
Impressive1 Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Well, I bartend, and I hear all sorts of lines. Some work some don't. It helps if when the guy is saying it he cracks a smile as to where he knows there is a chance of him being blown off. Humor is great! The worst is to hear the same guy say the same line to a woman, it not work, and re use it with someone else.Now that sucks to go through hearing that torment more than once.
Merin Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale i'll have to remember that line. that is good. Worked for him
JoL Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 I am the same- if a guy is polite and just generally friendly without being sexual or overly flirtatious (the cheesy kind) then i will be friendly and polite back. If i am not interested i will be polite and friendly but leave it at that. If i feel an attraction or a spark i will generally flirt back. though to this day i havent dated or kissed anyone ive met in a bar/club. But if you want to meet girls in clubs- i suggest just being friendly and be yourself- nothing worse than a guy acting fake or sleazy.
Linlin Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 Here's a good one for you. I was at the casino last night sitting at the bar. A guy that I talked to me while I was playing came and sat next to me. He gave me the typical lines, "you have a nice smile, etc." That was OK. Ordered himself a drink and didn't ask me if I wanted one. Guys don't always have to buy, but it is nice to be offered. First red flag. Second red flag. Buys me a drink but doesn't offer to get one for my mom who he met sitting next to me. Third and final red flag. "I like the colour of your hair. But that isn't your natural colour." I'm already ignoring him and he is telling me what a big shot he is and how great in bed he is. These are some more tips on how not to impress women at bars.
WhereSpiritsRoam Posted March 14, 2005 Posted March 14, 2005 I usually ask if the lady would like to knock some balls around - at the pool table, of course. It seems to be a good icebreaker.
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